Worried about my child inheriting my ears

[Bingalin]

Hi. Me and my husband would like to start trying for a baby next year. I have one worry though- that I’ll pass my ears onto my baby. It sounds silly, please don’t laugh. I have very small ears and one is deformed (like a cup ear). I’ve hidden them under my hair all my life (I’m 34) and for the most part I’ve got through life fine with only a few people asking why I never show my ears or put my hair up (I’ve had a bob pretty much forever so it hasn’t been too much of a problem). I’m pretty sure that my deformity was an anomaly, as I don’t have any other problems commonly associated with deformed/small ears (my hearing and kidneys are healthy) and it’s not a syndrome. Nobody else in my family has ears like mine either. I’m worried about passing on my deformity but don’t want to let it stop me becoming a mum. I’m not a ‘looks are everything’ kind of person at all but although I’ve got through life so far managing with my ears, I wouldn’t wish it on a child.

Please try not to worry @Bingalin. Everybody has something that they don’t wish to pass on to there LO but it shouldn’t stop you. If LO gets small ears, it doesn’t mean that they’ll find it all that bad either. Like you said too, nobody else in the family has them so you might not even pass them on.

Babies and small children need you, to be fed, kept warm and clean and to be loved, they won’t care what you’ve passed on or not. You sound like you’ll be make a really good Mum. If it helps, right a list of all of your goid points, not just physical, that you wish to pass on to your DC.