I don’t trust my partner with our son!:(

[Rmd19mummy]

I know longer trust my partner to look after our son, am I being totally unreasonable In not trusting my other half after leaving him alone with our son (who was sleeping in cot) had been violently sick and he hadn’t noticed! I feel like I can trust him to take of him anymore, I feel like all my trust has gone with him!
Please any advice!

Are you new parents ?

Then you will fuck up like this one day too. No one is perfect, and when you do fuck up ( as we all do) then perhaps you’ll think it’s unreasonabke to be told you can’t look after your baby anymore.

You may be suffering PNA ( post natal anxiety) if you are feeling so over protective. Have a look online

Or you may have an abusive partner. It's more to do with whether this is a one-off or you have a gut feeling around his care or lack-of of the baby generally.

One of my DC was violently sick and I could hear cries, I thought, I listened only so long to the in-laws telling me tobstop being so bloody sensitive and ignore it... Well I bloody ignored them and went upstairs my poor baby was covered in vomit, the travel cot too. I showered with baby, and nursed baby was very poorly.

You have to go with your instincts here whilst keeping feet on ground. I think it's unlikely your baby could be so sick and you not notice, and I'm quite at the response you got, especially as this is an area for newbies, plus you new mum!

Not sure on the information given... I once found my son had been sleeping in vomit in his cot when I went to get him in the morning. I hadn't heard anything and had been asleep myself in a different room. No idea how long he'd been like that. Felt awful but how could I have known?

I normally do a quick check right before I go to bed but after that he'd have to cry or make some kind of noise for me to go in his room again.

Was your partner in the same room? What makes you think you would have noticed sooner if you had been there?

Sometimes baby sick over night and barely noticeable, for some babies its and unremarkable event, but I had assumed this wasn't a case of gone away overnight, from the way it was written.
Maybe an evening out?