Consused and need advise.

[HNicole]

Hi,

I am new to this but really hoping for some advise from someone that I dont know as I don’t feel I can talk to anyone else.

So basically I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half. In this time he has gone to work abroad which I supported him with. We had big plans to travel following this but he changed his mind which I accepted.

I have a history of endometriosis and we have discussed this, also that my chances of becoming pregnant may be affected. We both decided that we want to have a family one day so jointly agreed to stop taking the pill and see if anything happened. So try to conceive.

I have been off the pill for 2 months and have just found out I am 6 weeks pregnant. I told my boyfriend and he basically shut me out and didn’t talk to me for a day.

We then met at the weekend and he is unsure if we should keep the baby as he is not ready, this makes me feel that I am not either.

I feel so sad that I am considering not having the baby and think this would be selfish to do. I worry that if I do I may never get pregnant again. I just feel so unsupported.

Today I woke up and found some notes my boyfriend had made which were basically saying that he doesn’t want to be with me and is going to work abroad again.

I really don’t know what to do and feel so unsupported. I don’t want to tell my family at this stage as I am worried about the reaction.

I know I am being selfish and I am in this situation for my own actions. Just feel really lost and issolated and don’t know what to do.

Sorry for massive essay. Hope someone has been through similar or can offer some advise.

Thanks

He sounds like a massive wanker. So sorry OP. Do you mind me asking how old you are? Are you working? LIving in your own place? Just helps me get a better idea of your situation before I advise you.x

Hi

I think know that he is deep down. Suppose I always hoped things would be different.

Of course you can ask. I am 30, just turned, he is 26. I have a good job, own my house but now rent this out to tenants which I did in preparation for our travel plans, which are t happening now. Now I live with my sister and he still lives with his parents. Thanks for your reply by the way. X

How you proceed doesn't need to be decided by him. If you don't want to terminate the pregnancy you don't have to. It sounds like you are in a position where you could do it alone financially and in terms of family support. It's still early days so you don't have to rush into anything. Give yourself and your boyfriend some time to think.

Thank you. You’re right I suppose I don’t need to rush this at this stage. It’s a huge decision and it needs to be right. Maybe I’ll just have a bit of time to think things through. Thanks for the reply