8 week old not sleeping through night in snuzpod but will on sofa??!! HELP!!

[Faye1990]

Hi 😊

Needing some advice! I’m a FTM and have a 8 week old who won’t sleep through unless on sofa with me. ( I know this isn’t the safest! She sleeps one end And i sleep the other.) it takes us ages to settle her to sleep and then once we put her in the snuzpod she wakes most times!! She also doesn’t go to sleep on her own either we have to rock or tap her bum until she drifts off is this normal? When I lay her on the sofa she sleeps like a baby!! I feel I don’t have a proper routine. I have tried but every day/night is different depending on when she naps.

Can anyone give me suggestions? I’m at my wits end!

Thanks 😊

Nothing very practical to add but as a new mum I just wanted to say that you are doing well! 8 week old don't generally have a routine as yet! We have a snug pod n my 3month old took a whole to get used to it. I put a muslin that I'd been carrying round all.day so it smelt of me in the cot and also lay on my bed but level with him in the cot with my hand on his chest and that seemed to help. Best of luck and well done and congratulations!

Will she sleep in bed with you? That would be far, far safer than the sofa.

Please don't sleep on the sofa with her again - the reason they are dangerous is that there are corners/gaps the baby can roll into and can't roll out at this age, and could suffocate.

Normal. It would be highly unusual for an 8 week old to sleep through anywhere.
However a sofa is really a not a suitable sleep surface for a baby. Can you set up a safe bed-sharing situation? So flat mattress, no pillows/duvets near baby. It does depend how you're feeding whether bed-sharing is recommended.

What do you define as sleeping through? It all sounds pretty normal to me. At that age, my DS would be put down to sleep at about 7:30pm but I would expect him to wake for a feed every few hours (roughly 11pm and 2am) and start his day at 6am. He gradually learnt to self settle (without the rocking and patting etc) when he was about 5 months old - I used the LittleOnes sleep programs to help get a bit of routine in place, might be worth looking at if you're struggling. You could maybe try leaving her in the Snuzpod and patting her while she's in it to try and get her to nod off again. White noise and black out blinds can also make a difference. Sorry I don't have any real answers for you.

She’s 8 weeks old, why should she be sleeping through?

Please, please don’t let her sleep on the sofa again. There are ways to co-sleep safely and there’s a death waiting to happen.

www.isisonline.org.uk

Look at this website for infant sleep and safe sleeping advice.

Thank you for the advice ladies 😊

I’m going to stop putting her on the sofa. Everyone keeps asking if she’s sleeping through and I’m saying no and feel like I’m doing it all wrong!

I don’t really want to start putting her in bed with me if I can help it. She’s bottle fed and can go every 2-4 hours it’s different all the time?

Hopefully when she gets abit older she will settle more on her own because she won’t take a dummy. She just wants you to rock/tap her bum until she drifts off. I hate to leave her screaming so I just go too her! But everyone is saying that’s not good because she won’t settle herself and I won’t be able to put her down when she’s older

“But everyone is saying that’s not good because she won’t settle herself”

Give your self a break, she is 8 weeks old. Advice from friends and family can be helpful, but there’s a point where you have to go with your instincts. And an 8 week old should not be left to scream it out. IMO.
I wouldn’t worry about a strict routine until she is a bit older

She's 8 weeks old, that's still tiny!

Please ignore people telling you to leave her crying, she's 8 weeks old for goodness sake. You're all she knows and it's a big scary world out here. There's lots of evidence that responding to babies when they cry improves brain development. There's no way at this age that she'll self-settle.

I appreciate you don't want to bed share (nor did I), but sleeping on the sofa is a much much worse habit, and so dangerous. At that age I had her cot positioned where I could put my hand on her chest while I laid in bed.

My DS is 14 weeks and has just started sleeping through so don't panic, I used to have him in bed with me and then just stopped needing to. Try different dummy types and she might settle better with a different one. Mine will take any but only keeps hold of a tommee tippee properly

Mine liked to sleep in her bouncy chair even at night.

My lg was just like this, gradually over time it’s got better and now at 6 months she actually goes to sleep by herself every other time or so - it does get better & you’re not making it worse for yourself or her by responding to her wanting to be close to you.

I had loads of shit off people about not leaving her to cry, letting her sleep on us, making a rod for our backs and all that bollocks - they are little for such a short time & it honestly will get better!

The wonder weeks app is quite good for seeing what developmental stages they are going through.

We started to see her settle down a bit around 4 months and every week it gets a bit better - ignore everyone else and keep giving your baby all the attention you can

She's 8 weeks old. You absolutely should be going to her when she screams. Stick with your instincts and ignore the dubious "advice" you seem to be getting. Self settling is a myth, the baby just learns that it isn't worth crying because no one will come.

My baby didn't sleep through the night until around 18 months. He's not a great sleeper but not abnormal. Expecting a tiny baby to sleep all night is not normal. And yes, I got months and months of questions about it from my MIL. I just ignored her.

She needs to be in a flat firm surface so not the sofa and not a bouncy chair

She is tiny, it’s normal not to self settle nor sleep through the night

You’re getting some bad advice irl

My 6 month old still doesn’t sleep through, wakes once or twice. Still get all the ‘oh isn’t he sleeping through?’ comments
8 weeks they still need cuddles and regular feeding so don’t worry about routine etc. As PP have said, sofa isn’t safe for babies to sleep without constant watching (which obv isn’t going to happen at night as you def need sleep too!)
We found that it just took time to familiarise DS to his cot, and swaddling really helped him settle. Just go with what works for you and try not to worry about other people’s comments

I just re read my post & confused myself lol - what I mean is I have had lots of shit off people because I wouldn’t just leave her to cry, and because we let her mostly sleep on/with us. But I decided I didn’t m care what they think because she’s my baby and is not up them

When someone gives you ‘advice’ just smile, nod & (if you disagree) ignore!

Another 6 monther here who doesn't sleep through, babies aren't supposed to sleep all night. You are doing fine... do not worry, but I second, third? The get her off the sofa advice.

Stop listening to people. Very few babies sleep through at 8 weeks and people actually mis-remember what their own babies did. My baby is 20 weeks and she wakes up twice a night usually and spends a lot of that sleep time being cuddled or next to me! She'll sleep eventually! In the mean time I just enjoy being with her!

My 17 month old doesn’t sleep through. In fact, none of mine have slept through until between 1 and 2 years old.

MarshaBradyo my GP and Health Visitor both agreed the bouncy chair was fine.