I met a guy in the club 8 months ago. I am 35 and he is 23. It's going strong (in the context of friends with benefits). He is a total gentleman. We respect one another and I do care for him - I know this is mutual. He tells me he wants to make me happy in every way. He is very patient too.
I was surprised a few weeks back when he seemed hurt by something I unintentionally did. He seemed a little crestfallen and it made me reevaluate the situation. It's never occurred to me to have 'the chat' as I have always thought of it as fun. However my friends are quizzing me and asking if I am sure he feels the same way and that feelings haven't got involved. Now I don't know. I feel incredibly responsible and I would hate to think I am letting something develop without being careful of his feelings.
He is a shy guy and I know he keeps things to himself. I am assertive and the extrovert and I think that is how/why it works.
Should I talk to him to make sure we are on the same page? Or will this just be creating more problems? Is it my responsibility? It's starting to play on my mind.
What would you do?
Ps I don;t have kids.
Thanks x