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Just found out im pregnant and I am so so scared . Please help

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Jenlou1992 · 11/07/2018 23:07

Hi I am new on here . I'm 26 and a full time nurse . Been with my partner for 10 years. We don't live together but buying a property this year . Just found out im pregnant . I literally don't know how to feel . I thought I would feel so happy but I just feel overwhelmed and scared . Is it the right time ? Will I cope ? How do I know it's what I want ? What if I'm not a good mum ? I just can't wrap my head around things . Any advice would be great xx

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argumentativefeminist · 11/07/2018 23:13

Never had any kids but I didn't want you to spend all night without any replies if nobody found this thread! I think from what I've heard that it's totally natural to feel like this - you could try searching through the other pregnancy boards for old threads where you might be able to read about some people's similar experiences.

Get some rest, give it a few days to sink in. Like with any big news, I think you dont always know how you feel until you've had some time to think.

Hope things work out for you, keep calm and I'm sure some more knowledgeable people will be along soon 💕

Rainbowqueeen · 11/07/2018 23:14

I think what you are feeling is pretty normal TBH. Hormones are going crazy and the reality and enormity of it hits.

Was the pregnancy planned?

The fact that you are worrying about whether you will be a good mum means you will be a great mum, the bad ones don't even think about it!

Take a few deep breaths, focus on caring for yourself and congratulations!

Halfahunnerstillastunner · 11/07/2018 23:24

Post or read threads in the pregnancy topic, you will get a lot more traffic there than here. I only saw this as it popped up on active for 2 seconds.

Madamswearsalot · 11/07/2018 23:25

We were actively trying and I was still shellshocked when the test was positive! I spent days saying to myself 'what the fuck have I done?'.

Lots of us have that reaction - you are not alone or in anyway weird. Even after the news had sunk in and I was excited, I'd still have times throughout the pregnancy where i panicked about it - how i would cope, would i enjoy it, how could i be a good parent. TBH I still had moments in my 2nd pregnancy where i wondered if we were about to do lasting damage to our dc1 and if i could cope with 2!

Let it sink in and then decide how you feel. It's a big deal and it's ok to think about how it will impact on you and what it means for your life.

kayakingmum · 11/07/2018 23:26

Your feelings are completely understandable. You may feel differently to me but I didn't feel pregnant in the early days and I was so worried about various things. Very gradually I got more and more attached to DD. She's 13 months now and I love her so much.

It sounds like you're in very a committed relationship and will be ready when you're little one arrives. If you wait for everything to be perfect and in place before getting pregnant you may end up waiting forever.

OliveOrTwist · 11/07/2018 23:46

Hi! I was 26 when I found out I was pregnant too. We had decided to 'casually ttc' so I thought we were all set and I would be thrilled when I got a bfp. Wrong! I was horrified. Shaking. Felt like I'd ruined our lives. Wasn't even sure I wanted a baby after all and considered looking into terminating the pg. Honestly it wasn't great! It took a good few days for me to come to terms with it. So don't worry, I think its totally normal. It's a huge life changing thing so understandable to be scared. Give yourself a few days to process this and then you may have a clearer idea of how you feel.

Fwiw, I'm 31 weeks now and I am still shitting myself, im mainly excited and looking forward to meeting out baby.

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Jenlou1992 · 12/07/2018 17:33

Thank you all for your replies . I already feel better today . I'm only about 4-5 weeks but have symptoms already. I've had a chat with my partner and I think we are going forward with this pregnancy which I am now certain it's what I want . I don't think there will ever be a right time or place to have kids . I can afford a baby I just have to prepare for the life style change . Thank you all so much for replying . Honestly it means so much xx

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OliveOrTwist · 12/07/2018 18:13

Glad to hear you feel more positive jen I think it's just a huge shock when you first find out. Have a look in the antenatal board for your due month chat, I found it really helpful chatting to other ladies due around the same time

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Jenlou1992 · 12/07/2018 22:27

Yeah I'll have a look . Thanks again x

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marmiteloversunite · 12/07/2018 23:05

I think what you are feeling is so normal. You spend so long trying not to get pregnant that when you actually do get pregnant it is quite a shock. I think most women are scared/ excited and wonder what the hell they have done. If you wait for the right time it will never come. Good luck with your pregnancy.

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