First time but am desperate for ideas/advice! I have 4 children aged 20, 18, 12, 10. My 18 year old is severely disabled and needs 24 hour care, she has one more year left at her school and am struggling what to do next! We have Carers a couple of evenings a week to feed and put her to bed and a couple of weekend days. We live quite rural so hard to recruit Carers. I am finding it increasingly difficult to cope with it all physically and mentally.I am dreading her leaving school next year and having to fill her days. I actually called the social worker on Friday and asked if we could look at a permanent resedential place for her after she leaves school, I have cried everyday since and it has made me feel like crap. I have a very supportive husband and the other kids are great. I broached the subject with one of my children and she was a little horrified to think that our disabled daughter wouldn’t live at home forever. I’m so tired and as I approach 50, I want my life back. I would love her to be able to live locally with some peers in a small home, where we can go see her and have dinner with her and take her out for days. We have little to no choice locally. Any suggestions/advice would be great