Social Services worry

[AngelDust77]

Hi im new here and didnt really know where to turn or who to speak too.
will try to keep it short. i have 2 daughters aged 12 and 7 and they belonged to a dance company and the past few weeks they have been unhappy there and my eldest became very emotional every time it was time to get ready and leave to go,yesterday she finally revealed she was being being bullied at dance and the teacher was also being none too nice to her,needless to say we pulled them from the company and they will not be returning there. We tried to be civil to the teacher and explain our concerns etc but we were met with a barrage of abuse from her and in her final message she has said she is going to report us to a child welfare officer and social services,she said she has "major" concerns about my eldest weight,height,emotional state and her welfare, and said she had concerns of the welfare of my youngest. My eldest has been diagosed with delayed pubity (which she is aware of) and is under the care of the hospital with regular appointments and blood tests etc and is slowly gaining height and weight although she was never underweight but has been an athlete since she was 6.
Our home is clean,plenty of food,so much love etc and the "emotional" and "anxiety" they speak about is just when they were at dance which is now understandable and both girls are absolutly fine at home and school,very bright,happy,healthy girls but the threat of social services has left me absolutly terrified,dont know what to do or when to expect them. My husband thinks they are just saying this to scare us and is 100% working, she was more annoyed that they will be losing a large finacial chunk from us each month as it costs just over £300 a month just for the training fees and thats without all competition fees,costumes etc so now she wont be getting that from us which has annoyed her. I am just so scared that social will arrive any day or worse take the girls from their schools. I have only ever had dealings with social once 3 years ago after a neighbour was arrested for child abuse and they wanted to make sure my girls were safe as we lived next door and nothing had happened to them which thankfully it hadnt and after a couple of weeks we never heard from them again. So sorry for the long message but im just so scared im going to lose my girls . Any advice greatly welcomed. Thank you

Why on earth do you think you would lose your children based on the word of a vindictive dance teacher?

Think nothing more of it unless you actually hear from social services. Which you won't.

She's talking crap to try and scare you.

Ignore her. She's a dickhead.

I can understand that you're worried, after all, there have been instances of the SS going in with their big boots on and causing much distress in cases where there was no need for their intervention.
I suggest talking to your GP about this and the anxiety it is causing you. Don't hold back on how you feel.
It might be an idea to talk to their heads of school about the situation and ask how their schoolwork is and have the pastoral team noticed anything worrying about the girls.
I have no doubt that the dance instructor is feeling peeved about the loss of income but if she was worried about the girls, she would/should have raised the issues earlier, not on the day you chose to remove them.
She is being a bully by threatening you.
Keep calm as much as possible so your daughters don't see or feel your anxiety and do write down what you said and she replied and when it was said.
Meanwhile, carry on as normal but do as many fun things as you can to keep the girls occupied and you busy.

You can lose your children just because someone reports you to social services. They need evidence to back it up and they don't have any!!! If they do contact you, don't worry. You will be fine, just don't panic.xxc

That's meant to say can't.

There is no way they'd listen much about what she has to say, even if she does contact them.
The worst that will happen is ss will contact you and arrange a time to visit.
I had them yesterday as school reported unexplained bruising on dd 14.
Honestly, if you haven't abused or neglected your child they will know straight away, they aren't daft.
We made sure we were tidy, but didn't do anything different to what we usually do. She was here for an hour and was rally nice.
Took some details and said the case was closed.
They have to act on reports, and it's an invasion of privacy at most.
Please don't worry.
I'd also be inclined to give a bad review on their website, or social media.

You WILL NOT lose your children.

SS don’t simply swoop in and remove children from loving homes on the word of one person. The very most that will happen here is that SS will phone up and visit you to ensure that all is as it should be.

They will not turn up unannounced. They will not remove your children from school.

Please try not to worry.

You've got nothing to worry about she's just blowing hot air believe it or not there not that bad even tho I had my son taken from me a week old ( its a long story) his bk in my care and we have never been happier

Hi! I work for Social Services and can only echo what others have already said.

If she did make a report they would make an appointment to come and see you for a chat. They’re not daft and will quickly see through a malicious referral.

Sounds to me like they are going on the defensive because you confronted them about your girls being bullied. They never expressed concerns before you did this? If they are Ofsted registered maybe report them for allowing bullying?!

Social services are not that bad, I've had dealings with them both when I was a child and recently after having my first baby (I have mental health issues), and on both occasions they've been positive experiences. I was actually glad that they would be involved when I had my son, I was terrified and have no support at all, but in the end I didn't really need any help and my son was removed from the "at risk" register last week. I just wanted you to know that even if they do come to visit you, it's nothing to worry about, like other people have said, they'd never remove kids without strong evidence of abuse or neglect.

Do people really quake in terror at the prospect of losing their kids because some loon threatens them with social services?
Surely you know there's no case to answer if there really isn't, op?

My friend had a malicious call made about her to social services along similar lines.
She explained on the phone that she had complained about a person recently and suspected it had come from them and told them of the hospital involvement.