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NotSoThinLizzy · 13/05/2018 17:30

Hi all so my other half just isn't pulling his wieght when it comes to the kids. We have one 8 year old and one 7 month old. I suffered badly with PD after baby was born. Baby dosent sleep more than an hour a time I'm breastfeeding. Anyways me and OH are constantly at each other rowing and shouting. Always ends with him saying no wonder I don't want to come home or one of these days I won't. He sleeps all night as he works 5 days a week. But he never does anything with the kids. He couldn't handle baby while I had a bath today which was 15mins. He s only changed a nappy 6 times in 7 months. He was like this with our 1st but I was 15 then and didn't really know any better (now our 8 year old hates him. Buts that's a whole other story)


Mabye it's my fault for letting him away with it for so long
Thanks for listening to my rant 😊 any advice good or bad is appreciated
Please send caffeine too πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

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NotTakenUsername · 13/05/2018 17:37

The 8 year old might end up resentful of both of you if you are always at each other. Sad

Advice?
It is both of your faults and it will need both of you to take responsibility and change the status quo to fix this: Stop the blame game. Communication, clean slate, encourage each other.
Equally if he is really this shit but he is unwilling to change and you are unwilling to put up with it, perhaps consider at least a period apart to consider what you want.

There is lot of research on the negative impact of parents at war on children.

NotSoThinLizzy · 13/05/2018 17:41

I agree it's not good for either kids. I just don't want to see 10 years go down the drain so to speak. We tired a separation period for three months and everything was good. Although now Seems like he made an effort because he saw what he could lose.

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WishTheGroundWouldSwallowMeUp · 13/05/2018 19:20

Hi lizzy

welcome to mumsnet.

if you pop over the relationships board, you could post again or have read through some others who are in the same situation.

there is lots of support and helpful posters over there

Flowers

ScreamingValenta · 13/05/2018 19:22

Hello and welcome to MN. I don't have any advice to offer, but wanted to say I think your username is fab Grin.

NotSoThinLizzy · 13/05/2018 20:02

Aw thanks. It was my nickname in high school as the fat goth chick πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

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