Right so abit of a back story.
Me and my partner have been together for almost 7 years now 2 little boys (2 and 7 months)
We are in our biggest rough patch ever. My partner started a new job almost a year ago. Since then I barely see any of his money. (He is not very good with it to begin with) and he is also out on a Friday and basically blows it all. He constantly talking about his mate 'Josh' I have met him twice. He is now becoming his new best friend. It's like his life is all about Josh. He even could him and one of (yes one of) his girlfriends away for a dirty weekend on Mother's Day. And I basically had to buy my own present when I brought his mums and my mums. He also agreed to take Josh and Josh's family on holiday on my birthday weekend. Obviously I flipped out so he agreed to pick them up instead.
To me josh is a dirty user who only cares about himself. But to my partner his the best mate ever! Me and my kids barely see my partner anymore and if we do there is a minimum of one conversation about Josh.
I feel like I'm losing/lost my best friend. He works all the time or he is with josh. Or sat next to me complaining that I also complain when I'm all I'm doing to begging for his attention.
My partner is going though a lot with his depression right now and this Josh is not helping.
I'm going away next week for 3 days I'm scared to leave him alone but I want him to see what life is like without me and kids.
I feel like a single parent in a relationship and I hate it. He never has anytime for me anymore. I'm jealous of his mate cos he gets all of his attention and you say anything negative about him he goes defensive.
Sorry I know it's long but I don't know what to do anymore. His mum agrees with me but I can't talk to him because they will be judgement and when I all I want is to cry at someone I feel so alone.