Family not interested in my little boy
Mark80 · 19/03/2018 12:09
My brother has shown very little interest in my son since he was born, he doesn't get in touch to ask how he is, has never asked for photos, doesn't ask to come see him. The indifference is very hurtful and I'm struggling to come to terms with it. He lives with my Mum which makes it very difficult for me to take my son round, he moans about how untidy the house gets, has moved my sons travel cot and toys around in annoyance and has refused to let him sleep in the room he stays in (twice a week). My mum cant stand up to him and make a case for my son to have somewhere quiet to sleep (only other option is the living room in a travel cot). Its a complete nightmare.
My Dad has now gone 3 months without getting in touch to ask how my son is and offer to come see him. I've arranged every single meet up between them all and just feel like giving up but its really hard as my son looks like he's going to grow up without a granddad and an uncle.
Anyone else experienced this? I want to move on so I can concentrate on my son but at the moment its making me angry and depressed.
llangennith · 19/03/2018 12:16
Fairly normal for a childless brother to not be that interested in a niece or nephew but your DM should make him a priority.
Don’t be sad OP, find other people to mix with and enjoy your son.
sourpatchkid · 19/03/2018 12:17
Firstly you might not get a lot of replies here, it's a pretty quiet area of mumsnet - maybe move it to parenting?
Secondly - I'm sorry you're going through this. It's a horrible feeling, my sister (who I used to be closed to and who has kids of her own) isn't interested in my son at all. I don't know why, but it hurt me a lot at first. Ive just learnt to accept it and stop trying to make it happen. I spend time with other people who love him instead. Do you have other support?
Mark80 · 19/03/2018 12:26
Thanks for the replies, I shall post on parenting too. I'm getting there support wise and there's loads of other people who love hanging out with him.
I kind of expected this ambivalence from my dad plus he has an extremely annoying and judgmental partner who cant go 5 minutes without saying something undermining or patronizing. Hes an adult and he's making this choice.
But my brother I imagined would be really involved and its a shock how he has dealt with it. e.g. Not answering texts, glazed over coldness whenever I mention my son.
sourpatchkid · 19/03/2018 12:32
Yeah I was surprised with my sister too, she doesn't hate my boy- she's just not interested. To be honest your brother sounds like a self centred arse. Your son doesn't need an uncle (or a grandad really) I had neither (mum has family, they're just not that nice) - didn't matter in the slightest to me
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