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[Justony]

Hi,I'm new and iv joined because I'm at my wits end and wanted advice from women.iv posted a thread asking for advice,in the talk section under help.....

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Hi what advice do you need :)

I v been with a guy for a while and it's not been the best,he lives with his mum as a carer but she fine ,he won't work and has a string of exs who he sees and in regular contact with,the fights started after he would spend time with them all day and ignore me,one of them he wanted her to sleep over in his bed with him,and he gives her money cos she comes down from London and is broke,she left chocolate in the bed which I found and thought they were for me,another woman is married and he told me she obsessed with him and is always looking for affairs .i got so fed up I rang one of the exs and she said it was true and he will never commit,he out all day hiking or whatever he does,he has no money,he moans cos I work 3 jobs,my daughter hates him cos we have seen him walk hand in hand with his women in my town,which hurt my daughter.iv tried to dump him and he says he can't cope without me and I will regret leaving him.

By the way he's 55 and like I big kid,his mum treats him like her only son,she is friends with a few of the exs,he told me they come to see her and not him,so I asked him why he was with his mum and the women he had no answer only that he loves his exs,why would a woman leave a presant in the actual bed when there was a chance I would find it,my boyfriend said he doesn't know why she would of done that but he told me they leave hidden gifts for each other,she gave a presant to the mum that was left in the kitchen not in the mothers bed.

My only advice I can give to you is to end the relationship, you don't sound very happy and it sounds like he doesnt respect you that much to be as involved as he is with his ex's, do you suffer with low self esteem and little confidence?

Your other thread you’ve posted in the Slings and Backpacks section, so you won’t see much advice there.

But really, there is only one thing you can do: leave him.

You don’t like him, your kid doesn’t like him, you get nothing out of this relationship whatsoever, so you need to leave him.

Hi,iv not a lot of confidence,I walked out on my husband lost everything,moved back to the uk with nothing,but I got a flat and 3 jobs,I spoil him I drive him everywhere and I was paying for most stuff till his mum started paying him some money,he worked 5 days in nearly 3 years,iv only recently moaned cos I got some devorce money and I'm moving abroad next year I told him to get some kind of job cos I wasn't going to spend all my money on him,he was really mad.

He says I don't trust him and I make a big deal out of things,he did say he would stop holding hands with the women,I saw it for my self it was right in front of my flat window,and a few times around town,I was so confused,he tells his exs everything,he rang me the week could he move in and be a proper couple ,he later told me another ex needed a place to stay so he would move her into his mums place she would look after his mum and he could stay with me,I was shocked,he's no job he said he would give me his money that his mum gives him,I told him no way unless he gets a proper job.

I love him but I don't like the way he carries on.