To be in a dilemma about a second child

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Hi really need some advice. I have a beautiful little girl who's nearly two. I had her via ivf as a single mother and I have 4 embryos in storage. I'm an only child so obviously my daughter has no siblings or cousins. Had originally planned to have another child but more and more I'm thinking I don't want one. As much as I love my daughter I'm finding the toddler years hard. My daughter is still breastfeeding mainly for comfort and mainly at night and the clinic won't treat me until she's been fully weaned for 6 months. This is widening the potential age gap. Also I'm self employed and the lack of money is starting to get to me too. I'm just not sure I can do this all again. Also I suffer with anxiety mainly that something will happen to my child but I'm also terrified something will happen to me and she'll end up in care. My mother is close by and very supportive but she also works full time and isn't getting any younger. Am I totally selfish to not give her a sibling? Please advice not judgement I didn't know I was going to feel like this.

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I’d give it Time before you write it off completely. I was convinced i only wanted one child but changed my mind when DD turned 3 and became much easier to look after!
That being said, of course it’s not selfish to only have one. I use to want to punch people who told me I had to have more than one 🙄

Hello,

I think you should do what you feel right for you and I do t think it’s selfish at all. What would’ve selfish is having another child knowing full well that you are not In a position to.

All the best lovely!

It sounds like you have already made your mind up that you would prefer not to have another and that's not selfish at all!

As said above I wouldn't rule it out completely but just enjoy your daughter and If its meant to be one day it'll just click and feel right.

I am one of three and I now have three children myself and it is bloody hard work but I always wanted two or three and woulsnt change them for the world.

I'm sure your daughter will be just as happy being a single child as she would having siblings. That's what making friends is for :)

Don't put so much pressure on yourself, she is only two. I know many who have had an 8-10 year gap between their first and second.

good luck :)