Broodyness!

[Missyunknown]

Hello, I'm nearly 18. For the last 5 months I've been feeling very broody! Normally I don't like kids tbh. But I get that broody and I start to feel frustration and want to cry because I don't know what to do. I know I'm young and everyone says live your life, part of me thinks a baby would make my life so much better however other part of me wants to do fun things. But I never actually do them due to anxiety.

Anyways- I don't know what to do and how to get rid of this broody moments I have or the frustration I get with it.

Anyone else feels like this? Or felt like it before?

There must be something lacking in your life that you’re transferring over to the desire of having a baby. Babies are bloody hard work and require a lot of time, money and support. You need a stable home with a very good long-term partner before you even consider this.

What’s going on in your life? Are you working, studying and socialising? If you’re not doing all 3 of those things I can see why it leaves so much time for obsessing over babies.

Babies are sweet and cute but they also require you to breastfeed for 1.5 hours, then they poo, then sleep for 2 hours then another 1.5 hours of breastfeeding, then pop and do on all night and all day. As soon as they move 95% of your time is spent keeping them fed and changed. Then they scream at you constantly for god knows what reason and are intent on hurting themselves so they scream even more. The bits in between sleep and screaming are a combination of stress about getting everything else in your life done and the isolating boredom that comes with having to completely give your life over to someone else.

Of course it’s rewarding but it’s not something to vaguely consider without a great support network.

I used to feel like this. The important question to ask first is; are you in a stable, happy, loving, long term relationship, do you have somewhere to live and do you have financial resources in place? Before these 3 things then I’d consider sitting on it for a while and maybe look at work that involves children or spending time with family/ friend’s children to satisfy your broodiness. I wouldn’t worry about age its self though, if you feel ready and you have those three things mentioned above then don’t feel bad because this is what you want. Not everyone wants to live the same life and do all those “great” things that apparently single, obligation free young people do. Most ppl spend their 20s begrudgingly working a shit graduate job, getting hammered and going on the occasional girls holiday.