Refusing access

[Noname17]

So, I'm in a predicament at the moment as to whether I let my ex see his son or not.
Months ago he strangled me and had a knife to me (it cut my hand) and police were called, obviously. I've refused him access to his son since then and he's had his friends contact me to arrange contact and I have refused until the court case is finished and I see some remorse or guilt and I'll be open to communication with him. He has said he's taking me to court for access.
Now I'm currently struggling financially at the moment as I've since moved into another property and its been costly buying everything from scratch.
I've contacted him asking if he'll help but he refuses to unless he sees his son. So i asked him not to send money but to instead mail clothes and nappies etc to my moms house and he still refuses. He's still angry and bitter towards me and all of this is my fault and I need to deal with it on my own.
He's lost his job because of this so I don't know financially where he stands.
I don't know what to do? Am I being unreasonable to ask him for help and not let him see his son until we go to family court?
Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks

You need to use the child maintenance program. Let them deal with him. Check out entitledto.com to see if you are getting all the benefits you qualify for. And, do not let him anywhere near your son. Your son deserves to live a life free from violence.

Thank you. The problem with that is that I don't know if he's got another job or if he's on benefits. I've asked him and he's refused to divulge.

You only need to give the information you know to Child Maintenance, the more the better, but they will do the digging for you.
Maintenance isn’t dependant on access. If you truly are concerned for you DC’s safety don’t send him.
His father can have access in a contact centre if needs be, but let him organise it. Then contact is supervised and DC will be safe. If he takes you to court and he says you have denied access if you have a safety reason and it’s genuine there is no issue, but the court will try to allow your son to have a relationship with his dad unless he is a danger.