Friendless

[Andrena92]

So I've never been good at making friends, in the quiet one who somehow gets involved into groups and I made a few friends from college. Last year I realised how little my 'friends' cared for me and I lost contact with them all. This year I got a job and although I get along with my colleagues, they are exactly that. Colleagues and not really friends. I'm not the social type but I'm beginning to feel very lonely. I just want someone to go to the cinema with or maybe grab a coffee. I just don't know how to make friends, any advice?

Most people will be acquaintances, most people have few friends.

Join a local book club? Take a class? Start a movie night at work?
Go to an MN meet up/look at the local boards (or on netmums) if you are in the UK. Find a local group which is for like-minded wanting to make new friends (spiceuk.com) or find a fellow foodie (meetup.com)
Or volunteering?

Do you have a hobby you could take up?

I'm new to this so sorry for just replying. I've looked into my local meet up but no groups are local to my town. I don't have time to read so book club wouldn't work. My work mates again they don't live in my town and so they never wanna make the journey just for a movie or anything.
I'm hopeful that I might meet some pals at the local comic con in November as it's a Star Wars special so will definitely find like mind folks. There's also a craft fair coming soon so I'll have a look at any workshops. Thanks guys 😁

I would say I've been in the same position. I actually started a couple of meetups (on Meetup.com) because there was very little near me. For about £100 per year, you can start three. I also joined a few local community things. I wouldn't expect to make friends going to one comic con. You're more likely to make some by going to something which meets regularly where you have a bit of time to get to know people. You might for example have a local board games group near you. If not, start one, there will definitely be others near to you who'd join.

Join a running club maybe (that if you like running) some have regular social events and you'd be meeting up once a week you'd get to know people from your area.
I also think taking a class is good as you'll meet like-minded people and you already have a common interest.

Or like Jojowilko suggested start your own meetup groups. You'd be surprised how many local people might join the group.

You say your workmatesdon't want to travel for the cinema - how about you travel to them?

Running isn't my thing I'm more of a lazy gal haha however I'm thinking of signing my son up for the local football club so may meet some mums there as well as my son making new friends.
Also regarding my workmates, I'd travel to them but I don't want to invite myself if that makes sense? If they asked me to come over or whatever then I'd do it. I also think some don't have patience for me as I'm the only one with a kid so have to find babysitters before I can commit to stuff.

Andrena kids football is a great way to make friends. My DS is 16 and played for the same team since he was 4. I'm good friends with quite a few of the Mums. All that time you spend standing on the sideline each week can get pretty boring so there's lots of time to chat.

I've just signed him up and he starts his first session this Saturday. Unfortunately I'm working so my mum will take him but I don't usually work Saturdays, can't wait to take him myself 😁