Menopause

[PhysicsMom]

Hi guys,

Expat living in USA. I am 52, no periods for 18 months or more, can't remember bc menopause took my brain. I've been through the gamut of shit menopause symptoms, you google it I've had it. I thought that once I was in full menopause not just peri menopause, that I'd start to feel better, more myself. I still feel like crap. Tired, zero energy, no libido no interest in sex, I can't lose weight despite going to the gym and nearly killing myself working out. My doc here in US says hrt is a no no. Yet I'm seeing on here women who are on it and swear by it. I'm coming back to the UK soon for good (thank god) maybe my UK doc will prescribe me some hrt. Anyway hi, saying hello, just want to connect and say how shit menopause is and nobody should have to go through it, fuck it. I sound angry, I'm really just exhausted by my body changing and letting me down like this. I used to breeze through life, now every day is a struggle.

Addendum, I should add my daughter just graduated from Boston University with a physics degree, hence my username. I'm very proud of her.

Hi I'm new - hope it's ok to join as I've not had kids - am 50 next month - think I've been peri menopause fir a couple of years - doc said try natural supplements - spent a fortune on them and they were ok until about 3 months ago I just couldn't cope with the night sweats - only been with my boyfriend a year and embarrassed by them and the total loss of libido - so not living with him as of 2 weeks ago - feelings of despair and totally knackered - just started demanding new job in June - doc did blood tests proved I was in menopause but still wouldn't give me hrt - after 3 visits and actually crying and explaining I was at the end of my tether I finally got elleste duet on Tuesday - any other ladies got advice on how fast it works? I feel like an alien has taken me over as I struggle to cope with simple things and I've always been a strong person - as an only child with no family at all (aunts and uncles passed away and cousins abroad) I had to get through losing my dad then nurse my Mam through 4 years of Alzheimer's and her awful death and then sell my family home - did it all alone and was offered anti depressants, counselling, and all sorts of drugs but took of them - and this menopause is worse than any of that - it's not just physical - I never had kids and now feel the chance of that has gone and feel totally redundant as a woman and very unattractive- sorry for the rant - no one to talk to and very lonely and desperate to know hrt will make me feel like the person I used to be - miss my Mam - she'd have told me about her menopause but as she was 41 when I was born I thought I had plenty of time fir chats - but she's gone and I'd give the world for just 30 mins and a hug x

Hi,

There's a whole menopause board here on MN, with lots if threads to read and lots of helpful posters.

I don't post on it much but I do read it most days.

Also Menopause Matters is a good website.

It's taken me over a year to get hrt - I have a lady doc who is pro natural remedies - I've been back and forth to her with no success just repeated blood tests and none fir the menopause - I hit lucky and got a doc coveting fir her hols and it still took 3 visits - all involving time off work and I'm scared I'll lose my job taking time off - not all employers are pro women's things!! But I got hrt on Tuesday - tell your doc your desperate - and I mean - desperate - we shouldn't have to go through this shit - our parents and grandparents suffered in silence - why can't we have these things to help us? Good luck and get a sympathetic doc x

Here's the thread at the top of the menopause board at the moment.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/menopause/3001482-Please-tell-me-about-HRT

If you click on it, and then click on 'menopause' at the top of the page, you'll see all the other other threads in that category.