Breaking my heart coz of daughters behavior

[LYANA2003]

Tried everything, but last night took her charger, laptop, record player and Netflix and i am now the f-ing bitch, I've overstepped the mark apparently. She is now being polite to me but my heart is breaking and cant get passed how vile she was to me last night. What do I do, pretend it never happened?

How old is she? It sounds like she is 11 plus from the stuff you have confiscated so some of the venom is most likely due to hormones. It sounds like confiscating her stuff has had an effect though seeing as she is now being polite at least. Before she gets anything back you need to have a chat about your expectations of her behaviour going forward. The requirement for her to apologise for last night and what consequences there will be in future for any behaviours you don't want to see. Then when the air is cleared have a cuppa and a chat to see if there are any reasons that she could be stressed and angry about.
Then you need to harden your heart a bit,she won't have meant what was said,she was in the middle of a temper and you had called her out on her behaviour. They can be like toddlers at times 11plus age.

She is 14. I have tried to get her to talk to me but nothing works. I paid for counselling at one point as she struggles with anxiety which nearly broke my pocket but wasn't appreciated.

My dd is 14 and has anxiety too and an autism diagnosis. What works for us is ignoring any mumbling under her breath, eye rolling, door slamming, stomping, any swearing that isn't directed at somebody else.So would ignore her saying "this homework is pissing me off" but wouldn't accept "you are pissing me off"
Any swearing I don't allow, insults, raised voices etc get the warning " you need to stop that right now" this usually results in dd stomping to her room. If she didn't stop then I'd say "you need to go to your room and calm down now. If you don't go to your room right now there will be a consequence" and if she didn't go she would lose all her devices and so internet access until the following day but that never happens tbh as the warning is enough.
I try not to sweat the small stuff so my limit isn't often reached,that way I don't end up nagging and moaning and dd listens when I appear serious because she knows I mean business.
Try and spend time enjoying each others' company whether that's going for coffee and cake or watching some trashy telly together. Keep chats lighthearted,talk about your day what's happening around you rather than questioning her and if she is like dd stuff that she needs to talk about just slips out when she is comfortable and distracted.

Thank you, your experience and advice is what I need. Need to give me some time out to calm down and start a new day afresh tomorrow.