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Scared to move!

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user1499544885 · 10/07/2017 20:20

I got remarried two years ago and my husband moved into the house I bought from the proceeds of the divorce from my first marriage! I have three children of my own and after going through a very bitter and long stretched divorce I have felt real comfort and safety in knowing that the house I have is entirely in my name. Now I am remarried the house has become too small he has two children who stay with us several nights on a weekly basis, it now means we have a teenage daughter each sharing a small bedroom and my two sons sharing another small bedroom to allow his son to have a bedroom of his own( I am happier with my two sons sharing as his son is 12 and sometimes bullies my boys) Anyway to cut a long story short we are suppose to be moving to a house big enough for us all, I feel so worried as it's me putting almost £170000 equity into the new house and him nothing!! He's a consultant Dr but has come out of his ex marriage with zero savings, he signed the house entirely over to his ex wife as she had been threatening to take his kids miles away if he forced her to move. He's suppose to be a top earner but spends his money on crap from Amazon which his kids are asking him for all the time! I feel all the risk taking is entirely mine as he paid more in rent before we married. I work as his private secretary part time and look after the kids and care for my elderly mother. This house is too small and i pick up on the fact he doesn't like my kids in the lounge when he's here! I think there will be a huge blowout if we stay as it's too cramped with growing kids but I am scared to lose everything if we sell and get divorce as I probably wouldn't get a mortgage again! Plus I feel he picks on my teenage daughter whilst being over the top nice to his but that's another thread!

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EmmMac · 12/07/2017 09:20

If you married him, you already made a pretty big commitment so isn't that enough 'security' to do this?

However, it sounds to me like you are doubting the whole marriage (from what you have written). If it were me, I'd make sure I was happy in the marriage and it was strong, before proceeding.

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