Wife wants space

[Dcx1980]

Hi. Been married for 10 years together for 13. We have 3 kids. 9, 6 & 1.
The short version is.....
She wants some space, for me to move out. As she says she is not sure how she feels about me anymore and did say she still loves me but now as she use to.
Should I give her the space and leave? Or stay and try to show I can be the man she wants? Will that push her further away?
I think moving out would be a step in a bad direction. And I don't want my kids remembering that it was me that left.

She's hidden debt. And nights away 'babysitting' later to admit she'd stayed at a hotel for alone time. (Not unfeasible, sad that she felt she needed escape)

Not sure if I can trust her but dispite it all I still love her and want to stay with my family.

Mate, sorry but if shes not seeing someone else now then its very close to that. If she doesn't want to go to relate or similar then it looks to me its all over.

Best bet is to seek a solicitors advice and put your foot down with the situation you stay there if she wants to swan off elsewhere then that's her lookout.

I bet there's more to come out on this how is it that's shes got debts and all that?

Sorry for you and the children though:(

Why can't she leave?

I really think in the circumstances that your DW should leave and you should stay in the house

We had a long talk. We're staying together. I believe her completely that there is no one else. And apologised for thinking that of her. That helped a lot. She apologised about hiding things. We then came up with things to work on and see how we both feel in 6 months. We're gonna do counselling. Things aren't perfecr but we're both making an effort with each other. Hopefully we can put this behind us.

You are a mug mate.

A mug for trying to keep my family together? Maybe but for now, Jog on.
I can't be arsed to write a transcript of all the conversations I have with my wife, so you get the highlights not the full story.
Just thought I'd let the people that left some helpful comments know that we're having a crack at working things out.

Good lucknowledge for the future. I don't think you're either a mug nor is she necessarily seeing someone else.
People are allowed to be unhappy and leave their partners just because it doesn't work for them anymore. People change and can grow in different directions.
I hope it workeeps out for you and you can do some serious talking. BTW you not being a violent man is not a plus point you know, that should be a given.

I think anybody who has a spouse who is spending secret nights in hotels, tells them they don't love them and tries to kick them out then ends up being the one apologising to them is probably a mug, yes.

I will fully admit that if this was a thread about a man I would think he was cheating. But I and several of my female friends fantasize about staying in a hotel overnight to rest, getting a rest from partners, housework, kids demands. It's a running joke for us, and one has done it. She said it was bliss, best nights sleep in years. All of us take on far more of the burden of house and family than our partners. You do say you need to be a better husband which makes me think she deals with a lot by herself. I can believe she just wanted a bit of a breather. I hope everything works out for you both.