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Any tips for managing ADHD demand avoidance and verbal instructions?

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ThreeGoldilocks · 05/06/2026 04:25

However random I want to hear tips and ideas for my worst ADHD traits. Maybe you have your own traits to share.

Following instructions- I absolutely dislike being told what to do. The only person I'd listen to is my Dad and that's because I remember him shouting at me when I was young. How messed up is that? Someone has to shout at me for it to register. This gets me in tonnes of trouble - normal verbal instructions just do not register at work. Heaven forbid if they are someone who nestles verbal instructions into long sentences, I just switch off.

It reaches a point where I point blank can't do something someone has told me to do. I just go off and do a different task. I have intentions of coming back to it, but I don't. I can't start where they want me to. It feels like I'm being meddled with. Like OK that's how your brain works, but mine is different. If I do it your way I might as well be dead.

Why am I so precious over my thoughts?! Is there any hope for fixing this at 44?

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