Do many mums prefer cannabis to alcohol, but just never say it out loud?

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Do many mums prefer cannabis to alcohol, but just never say it out loud?
Hi all,
I’ve been wondering lately whether there are more mums than people realise who prefer cannabis to drinking, but keep quiet because of the stigma.
I have diagnosed ADHD and cPTSD. I stopped using cannabis last December and managed really well for a while. But after a traumatic few months, losing everything, and ending up very close to a full breakdown, I found myself rethinking things.
My partner, our two boys and I have recently moved to a completely new area, and I don’t know a single person here. I’m starting from scratch and trying to rebuild, and if I’m honest, part of me would just love to find like-minded mum friends I can be myself around. But it feels like one of those things you can’t really say out loud without being judged.
I do appreciate the concern people may have, but I haven’t landed here by accident.
I’ve used cannabis since my 20s and, truthfully, it has been the only thing that has ever really helped me survive some of the things I’ve lived through. I’ve tried plenty of prescribed pills over the years, including earlier this year, and they never helped me in the way people said they would. They just numbed me and made me feel like I’d lost myself.
Cannabis has never been about getting completely out of it for me. It has been about calming my mind enough to cope. The issue is that the right strain makes all the difference, which is why I’m seriously looking into the medical route now.
It also got me wondering whether there should be more safe, judgement-free spaces for mums like this to connect either online or in person. Maybe a Facebook group, a page, or even local meet-ups where women could find like-minded people without fear of judgement.
I know this won’t be everyone’s view, but I also know I can’t be the only mum who feels this way.
Am I the only one, or are there more of us quietly out there?

I used to do both socially. Like a lot of young people, I'd often drink to excess, sometimes get overly emotional, do stupid things or even have black puts, and hangovers were the absolute worst. Whereas when I smoked weed I'd always feel calm and happy and there was no after effect the next day. It definitely helped with my period pain as well. The only negative side effect was the munchies!

Since having children I naturally cut down on both drastically. After my second, the first cigarette I had made me vomit so I haven't smoked anything in 10 years. I was then diagnosed with advanced cancer 3.5 years ago and haven't really fancied alcohol apart from the very ocassional one or 2.

So in short I'm more or less sober now, however I wouldn't rule out cannabis for medicinal/pain relief purposes. I wouldn't smoke it though, and would do my research re drug interactions etc.

I certainly don't judge anyone who uses it, unless they're e.g. obviously stoned on the school run etc.

No, it’s not something I use although I have tried it when I was younger.

I do try to use other things to help with my ADHD like meditation, unfortunately I can’t run anymore but that can be brilliant at self regulation.