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Can no longer mask - work

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Chaos80 · 06/03/2026 08:44

Hi, I have Audhd and perimenopause. My company has been taken over and instead of being about how well we achieve it’s much more “go we come across”. Something has changed I could pass for neurotypical so much easier before….now some things have changed there isn’t enough yin in my life to balance the yang…I don’t have much softness in my life (love affection etc) it’s just feels like stress and pressure and getting messy from my teens and work that I’m not good enough. Whereas they used to be sources of my self esteem. I just want to be left alone and not be forced to change and have it so rubbed in my face that people think I come across as this or that..love and let live! I need to work here though as I’m a single parent and I won’t be able to match the money elsewhere. I just feel like I’m peak ND and I want the world to fuck off and stop commenting on me.

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Chaos80 · 06/03/2026 09:19

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Triskellion75 · 06/03/2026 09:30

Didn't want to read and run but is there no one at work you can talk to? Have you shared your diagnosis with them before?

SleafordSods · 14/03/2026 06:59

I found the Peri was wheb the wheels started falling off. Have you spoken to your GP and have you tried HRT yet @Chaos80?

Chaos80 · 14/03/2026 07:36

Thanks both yeah I’m on HRT, and an anti depressant. I’m going to try ADHD medication in the hope, please god, that it takes me a bit further away from the end of my tether

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Triskellion75 · 14/03/2026 11:42

Consider a break from work if you need it. Sending you all the love.

Nichebitch · 16/03/2026 20:58

I was in a very similar position. I went from fighting for a global position to have to stop working. What I’ve found out - oral progesterone, which was supposed to calm me, was destroying my mental health (apparently this is quite common with ND women). Changed to a mirena coil and I’m starting to see the light. Good luck

BlueSkiesADHD2026 · 09/04/2026 19:38

I hear you. Take heart it's the team culture and not you. I had some comment about my presentation at work and it made me want to wretch lol.

To me, it literally means styling my hair and making an effort on clothes. Honestly those are the things that people silently judge you on the most. And treat you differently for. Whatever they say.

Some time ago I had my colours done professionally and it helped a lot, so something like that might help in general with confidence.

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