I am looking for some advice. As social services are useless at replying in a timely manner.
To give you a bit of context My husbands child is neuro diverse. They haven't been officially diagnosed yet. The neurodiverse team have dismissed further investigations because they mask in school. The child is a very bright yet anxious child and has sensory issues and emotional dis regulation. I would go as far to say they have PDA as well. Since September their behaviour has become more physically and emotionally explosive and confrontational. The last few weeks or so have been very bad. Hitting and squaring up to us. Something his other parent has said they do at their house. The other day they hit myself numerous times and my partner after a meltdown over not getting their own way. This has happened more than once. Meltdowns are constant at our house Everytime a boundary is put in place or they are told no. They also have tried to strangle my child on a few occasions during arguments. The child told Mum they hit when they feel threatened and when they are restrained. Making it out like they are being physically abused. This is simply not true and the child is only restricted or guided away when he's hitting and punching. Mum sadly isn't the most consistent with being approachable and has alarmingly stated they believe the child as they don't lie due to their condition. (Although undiagnosed). This was not up for debate or discussion. A few things I'm concerned for is accusations that may follow that simply aren't true and having social services on our backs and mainly Concern for my child's safety. As she has had to witness all this herself. And finds it distressing. No one in the professional system seems interested in helping. It leaves us very open and vulnerable. First the mother seemed to be in agreement the child shouldn't come back to the house temporarily to give everyone some space. But now her tune has changed as I expected and it's their home and should be allowed there too. She's not concerned about social services or anyone else only about relaying blame onto us. Yet she's still happy to send the child over here. I appreciate they are a child and it's not their fault, and services have alot to answer for, but surely someone needs to be protecting all involved. I feel it's going to take something serious to happen before we are taken seriously. Any advice please