Triple heart bypass

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Erm my dad needs a triple heart bypass, I have 4 children youngest a has additional needs he’s not fully processed ‘ pappy is in hospital with a poorly heart ‘ should I take him up to the hospital before the op tomorrow. Pappy is looking like normal no tubes or ventilators, talking and smiling like normal . I’m stuck! What’s best to do? My son will either brush it off or react in anger. I’ve been open and honest, with all my children. My youngest I have given him the basic information he needs to know . What would you do?

I think if your dad is well and able to engage normally with them, and there is no problem getting to the hospital so it can be as long or short a visit as you need, then it's fine to visit in general.

But I suppose all you can do is gauge as well as possible how your youngest responds to the question about whether he wants to go when you put it to him. You know him best - if he's resistant then don't. You can visit when your dad is recovered/ing and then the peril and unknown element is gone. Would that be an option?

Thank you, my mind is a bit blank atm I don’t want to force my son I want to do what’s best , I will try and talk to him about it a little bit more, thank you for responding ☺️

Yeah, if he feels theres's some 'pressure' about the visit, it might be best to ask but back off immediately if the answer's no. If all goes well (which hopefully it will!) your dad will be awake and able to see you the next day so you could report back to ease any fears if that's a concern for your child.

I doubt the children will be able to see him in ICU but even then he'll be on a ward in 24/48 hours so they won't have to wait long.

Good wishes to you and your Dad, hope he gets well soon