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In my mid 30s and I’m now wondering if I’m autistic

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letscircleback · 18/12/2025 22:13

I’ve always considered myself socially awkward or that I have social anxiety. I’ve always felt I was born without the ‘handbook’ on how to get by socially and that I stick out like a sore thumb.

However I think I am good at gauging what other people are thinking/feeling…. Maybe too much so as I overthink things afterwards. I definitely know when others are bored, annoyed, happy etc.

The main reasons I think I could be neurodiverse are I am very sensitive to noise, so much so I actually become very irritated by it. I hate bright lights and can only have lamps on or they give me a headache. In fact I have a lot of sensory issues, with clothing fabrics too.

When I was a child the teachers would tell my mum I clearly hate change and it’s still true. I get very stressed when things are changed out of my control. I have used control over food/eating as a way to cope in the past.

In terms of mental health I have been on and off antidepressants, mainly for anxiety. If it’s not autism, whatever it is has really hindered my life and I wish I had answers for how I am. I’ve tried therapy to change but it doesn’t solve the big things. The way I am has hindered my job wise as I think I would have got much further if I was confident, plus I find working in the office really hard due to the sensory overload.

I would feel like a time waster going to the GP about this at my age. Can anyone relate to know any suggestions on how I can make sense of my struggles?

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cadentiasidera · 24/12/2025 09:17

It sounds very much like you have several traits and it would be worth discussing with your GP. I have recently been diagnosed with both autism and ADHD after finally plucking up courage and asking my GP to refer me via Right to Choose. I have been on anti depressants at various points, including since my daughter was very little (8 years ago) as I had awful post natal anxiety etc, but I hadn't managed to come off them and wanted to reduce/ come off them as I wasn't sure they were needed any more and also thought they were covering what the underlying problem was. I went to talk to my GP in the summer and fully expected her to say I was jumping on a bandwagon/ social media trend, but actually she was very kind and thought it was definitely worth pursuing. (It probably helped that my daughter has an autism diagnosis and is on the ADHD pathway too) So I filled in the initial forms for the GP referral, then had many more forms to do for the chosen provider (Psychiatry UK) and then an assessment interview for each diagnosis on Teams. And I received my diagnoses in the last couple of weeks. A bit overwhelming at the age of 42, but also very validating to know that there are reasons why I find things difficult and I'm not just rubbish at life!
That was a long waffle, but feel free to ask me any questions, and please don't feel you're wasting the doctor's time... You deserve to understand yourself better ❤️ 💐

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