My OH was diagnosed with Inattentive ADHD last year. The medication in general has really improved his ability to stay in work / function "normally". However, he seems absolutely unable to do laundry or change bedding. Like, to an absurd level. It winds me up no end, because it's just so, so wrong and he insists on doing it, even though I beg him not to (I wish it was weaponised incompetence, because presumably then he'd be happy to let me get on with it?).
Just got back from visiting my parents and he's insisted on changing the bedding on all three beds. None of it matches. Not the end of the world. The duvet covers on the big beds, are both the wrong size for the duvet. The toddler has wrong sized duvet cover, wrong sized pillow cover (too small) and king sized, double duvet cover as a sheet, on a toddler sized bed. My best, new, white Egyptian cotton ones, ripe to get drenched in piss by morning. I've come back previously to very damp (almost wet) bedding on beds, mattress protectors on upside down and on top of the normal top sheet, sheets "on" at right angles to how they're supposed to fit... less spectacular, but equally as problematic, he frequently hot washes the kids clothes and shrinks them, and I can't afford to replace.
Even medicated, he appears to have a complete mental block, with his ability to do the tasks, or remember that he can't do them. Every time he goes away, he does something weird with it, so when I get back late, I have to sort it. If I complain, he acts hurt, or like I'm somehow being unkind or ungrateful, or like it doesn't matter whether bedding is wet. Is this normal, within ADHD circles, and just unavoidable indefinitely? We've had so many rows about it in the past, but it seems so pointless that now I just internalise it.