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Had a diagnosis... what now?

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BrucesBarAndGrill · 07/10/2025 19:08

I now have officially been diagnosed with Autism and ADHD. The autism wasn't a surprise at all, as soon as I started looking into autism I was sure that was me, so many pieces fit and it seemed to make sense. The ADHD was a bit surprising, that wasn't something I'd really looked into and after my assessment I started reading more into it and realised that all the symptoms were just things I'd thought were personal flaws or me being too "stupid" too "day dreamy" etc.

I just don't really know how to feel about it all. I cried during the assessment, some of the questions kind of probed into things I don't tend to uncover and the very lovely assessors also said some nice things to me which I didn't expect to react to but did have me in tears (and I'm not usually someone who cries, I tend to keep my emotions very buried)

I have just kind of been left feeling... nothing really. I read about the assessments beforehand and many people mentioned feeling a sense of relief or finally understanding themselves... I just feel absolutely nothing.

Did anybody else feel like this after the assessment? I am glad that I have the diagnosis as I can ask for reasonable adjustments if I ever want to or change jobs, but it's not really relevant now as I work for a very small business who basically let me do what I want how/when I want as long as the work is done so any adjustments have already been made.

Is there something that I'm missing? Will the feelings come to me? I don't know what I expected but I know it wasn't too feel absolutely nothing.

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EightPercentCoaching · 07/10/2025 22:05

I work with lots of clients who have ADHD/Autism diagnosis. I also was diagnosed around 3 years ago.

It's a process so you may find you experience different emotions individual to you at different times. It's important to work with your own journey and not compare how others feel and feel that you should 'feel' a certain way.
Maybe frame a different question for yourself...what does this mean for you now? What will you do differently or not do differently now you have your diagnosis?

ApplesCrumbleButtons · 07/10/2025 23:25

I felt nothing too - forgot about it for six months then went back to titrate on meds and started to work on strategies. It's been an ongoing understanding of how my brain works and now at 45 I am in so much of a better place - I don't care about people pleasing as much and can recognise when things are getting too much for me and pull back which is frankly a miracle.

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