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What the hell do I do?

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overstimulatedhermit · 14/09/2025 13:51

my diagnosis are bpd, adhd, ptsd.

i was originally on quetiapine, mirtazapine I struggled to take them both and had to come of the quetiapine because the side effects were horrific. I was also given metro xl to take alongside these two but didn’t because I was scared so stayed on the just the mirtazapine for a while but I was horrible and venomous and it was really effecting the family home so I came off that too. So for about 2/3 months I’ve taken nothing and all though I’m more pleasant and social and up for doing more things I can’t function when it comes to organising, keeping on top of chores, washing, food shopping all that kind of stuff. So this week I started taking the adhd medication to see if that helps, I’m on day 5, I feel sick but ravenous but can only manage a couple of mouthfuls. Dizzy and sort of out of it and weird. I know medication takes a while to start working but it’s made me regret starting it because I hate the feeling of trying a new med. I’m due to see my psychiatrist next month, he’s knows I stopped the quetiapine but not the mirtazapine and I’m anxious that he’s going to be pissed with me. I don’t know what do for the best, I don’t want to be medicated I hate the way it makes me feel but at the same time I want to be able to focus and be able to do simple things without overwhelm taking over my life.

I was diagnosed with all this after a breakdown 3 years ago, my 8 year old had been diagnosed with autism and adhd in that time too, I’m 41 with 5 children (3 of those being adults) my own family overstimulate me I don’t know what to do.

OP posts:
Honeybunny75 · 10/10/2025 14:30

Have you been tested for autism
You sound a bit similar to me ,I'm autistic

Trollerscroller · 13/10/2025 12:17

overstimulatedhermit · 14/09/2025 13:51

my diagnosis are bpd, adhd, ptsd.

i was originally on quetiapine, mirtazapine I struggled to take them both and had to come of the quetiapine because the side effects were horrific. I was also given metro xl to take alongside these two but didn’t because I was scared so stayed on the just the mirtazapine for a while but I was horrible and venomous and it was really effecting the family home so I came off that too. So for about 2/3 months I’ve taken nothing and all though I’m more pleasant and social and up for doing more things I can’t function when it comes to organising, keeping on top of chores, washing, food shopping all that kind of stuff. So this week I started taking the adhd medication to see if that helps, I’m on day 5, I feel sick but ravenous but can only manage a couple of mouthfuls. Dizzy and sort of out of it and weird. I know medication takes a while to start working but it’s made me regret starting it because I hate the feeling of trying a new med. I’m due to see my psychiatrist next month, he’s knows I stopped the quetiapine but not the mirtazapine and I’m anxious that he’s going to be pissed with me. I don’t know what do for the best, I don’t want to be medicated I hate the way it makes me feel but at the same time I want to be able to focus and be able to do simple things without overwhelm taking over my life.

I was diagnosed with all this after a breakdown 3 years ago, my 8 year old had been diagnosed with autism and adhd in that time too, I’m 41 with 5 children (3 of those being adults) my own family overstimulate me I don’t know what to do.

Well tbh reading your post
you should come off the tablets they only
make your brain chemistry worse
make you controllable and cranky venomous as you say .
you can ask the doctor for medical cannabis or oil instead which will calm you down and make you smile again
if you feel overwhelmed and stimulated too much have you tried playing meditation music around the house to calm you down and be in a peaceful environment or yoga

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