Right I feel like I’m on the edge with my partner. I’m not 100% sure this is a trait - could someone explain or shed clarity. Is this adhd or trauma?
basically when I have some conversations with my partner he twists conversations and goes around in circles that much that I lose my thread and become really confused. This is an example…
So we are getting work done in our house. My partner is a plumber so quite handy and knows a lot of people in the industry. Anyways I asked him again (for 20th time) did he contact the floor man (he said last night he was going to do it today) he said no. I said well give me the number and I’ll sort it. He said leave it with me because he said he’ll do it in October so just leave it. I said well I need him to confirm so I can book the plasterer. He said I’ll do the plastering. I asked when will you have time because you’re so busy so it’s best someone else does it. He said well I’ll just do it Sunday. I said oh good Sunday it is then. He then comes back with ‘yeah like I’ve got to do that other job as well - with an attitude. So I said well if you’re busy why are you saying you can do something when you can’t. We then went on to have an argument about it with me pointing out he said he could and then within 10seconds makes an excuse that he can’t. I tried to explain to him several times and repeated the conversation. He then starts going on about all the stuff he has to do and the things I ask him to do…honestly I don’t ask him to do anything for me. He is quick to do things for others but our house always has to wait.
it’s like an impulsivity where he said he’ll do it Sunday and then realised he can’t but completely deflects onto me making me to be the one in the wrong because he can’t deal with rejection.
I feel like I’m going mad!