People on the internet are convinced I am male or AI

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Whenever I post on anonymous forums, talking about my real life and feelings, I gets tonnes of accusations of being male and/or AI, because apparently women don’t talk or think the way I do, and “real” people don’t speak/write the way I do. It’s a really frustrating conundrum, especially when I’m just trying to connect with other women… I’m not even sure if it would be worth trying to mask in order to “pass” as a legitimate human female, because I think I’d have to be so different from the way I am, or avoid talking about so much of my life, thoughts, and experiences that it wouldn’t even be worth it. It would be so inauthentic.

I also don’t have much ability right now to go out and meet friends IRL, so I’ve been trying to (poorly) substitute with online interaction, to little avail. I’m not quite sure what I’m doing “wrong” other than maybe it’s not quite so common for women to be frank about their sexuality or to actually be physically attracted to men? Am I using too many dashes, slashes and parenthesis? Is it my vocabulary or syntax? I’m stumped.

Is anyone else encountering this problem?

I don't get accused of being male or AI but I do think the way I write and express myself reflects how I am in real life: very unrelaxed, very formal, and expressing ideas that other people quite often scoff at and laugh at because I dont fit in with the crowd.

That's the thing as you say yourself OP: if you are neurodiverse and you want to talk about your authentic self then that means you have to use the style of expression that is natural to you.
And if you try and write in a way that conforms to how neurotypical people express themselves then you are not being your authentic self. You are presenting yourself differently just to try and conform.

I don't interact with people irl very much.
Actually it's only on MN. And quite frequently I rub certain posters up the wrong way - unintentionally- because they take exception to what I say and how I say it. The Chat forum is where I end up having the most problems . Probably because Chat isn't something I can do in real life so not being able to do it on an Internet forum shouldn't be a surprise to me.

But to be honest the way anyone who expresses themselves differently are picked on and ganged up on really annoys me. It makes me angry rather than apologetic for how I am. I can't get my head round the mentality that thinks it's normal to bully people who they perceive as being not " one of them"

Yes, got accused of being a man years ago on here when I started a thread.
I also am trying to use Tinder and some conversations have ended with me being called mate as I think they may think I'm a man.

The thread I posted was about a relationship I was in and it was to do with sex. I got called all the names under the sun and I got the distinct feeling that I was not behaving as a woman is supposed to? That they were judging me. I just wanted to have an open minded discussion.
This has happened in real life too. I didn't know I had autism and I suppose I didn't understand the unwritten rules of how women are supposed to behave.

I've worked in a contact centre both on the phone and on web chat and been accused of being AI because of how I speak.

It's laughable, or it would be if it didn't happen so frequently.