AUDHD Adult living with Mother but she wants to move away with toxix partner

[Lanita1998]

I am a 27 year old adult living with my mother who I rely on to get everywhere and make appointments. I don’t work and my mother is looking to move away with her toxic partner. She is neurodivergent aswell and they have been on and off for 25 years, he is mentally abusive and family and me have told her many times not to go back. Me and her mother are always left to pick up the pieces. I have friends and I’m happy where I am but I refuse to live with him. I am stressing because I do not work and am unable to due to burnout. She has said I can have the house we are currently living in. What should I do?

Are you on benefits? Which benefits? What income do you have? Who owns the house you live in? Have you ever had a support worker?

I would strongly suggest you stay where you are, as it sounds like your mother would come back eventually.

I am currently on UC and PIP and the house is rented but I could not afford it on my own. I haven’t looked into having a support worker. There’s only so many times you can tell someone not to go back but she’s even said she doesn’t know what she is doing with him. I know it’s going to end up in upset again but it’s frustrating. I doubt she will do it but then part of me thinks she will and I don’t know what I will do.