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Diagnosed with ADHD, ASD and post menopause all within 3 months!

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AuADHD · 08/06/2025 00:30

I saw the GP on Friday to sort out my HRT because I’ve been inconsistent with it. She asked when my last period was and it’s over a year so that’s me done apparently. I feel a bit mind blown by those three things being diagnosed so close together. It’s a lot to get my head round. I’ve had 38 years of endometriosis pain so menopause is something I’ve been looking forward to but it’s still a bit of a thing to process. I’ve felt sad recently about never being young again but my ex died last year at 51 so I count my blessings and I don’t feel old except for the times I feel 90 🤣
Such a lot to process and adjust to. I know I’ve always had ADHD and ASD but I’ve only recently known for sure and I’m still getting used to it. Now I’m over the hill too! 😩 I’m ok with it really but it feels quite momentous too. At least my boobs are still pert. I’m focusing on the positives here! My executive function might be through the floor, my neck crepey, more white hairs appearing by the month, peach fuzz on my face, some weird wrinkly shit going on with my armpits and a vagina they may never see a penis again, but my boobs are still pert.
Can anybody relate with this triple whammy?

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Island77 · 12/06/2025 12:37

AuADHD · 08/06/2025 00:30

I saw the GP on Friday to sort out my HRT because I’ve been inconsistent with it. She asked when my last period was and it’s over a year so that’s me done apparently. I feel a bit mind blown by those three things being diagnosed so close together. It’s a lot to get my head round. I’ve had 38 years of endometriosis pain so menopause is something I’ve been looking forward to but it’s still a bit of a thing to process. I’ve felt sad recently about never being young again but my ex died last year at 51 so I count my blessings and I don’t feel old except for the times I feel 90 🤣
Such a lot to process and adjust to. I know I’ve always had ADHD and ASD but I’ve only recently known for sure and I’m still getting used to it. Now I’m over the hill too! 😩 I’m ok with it really but it feels quite momentous too. At least my boobs are still pert. I’m focusing on the positives here! My executive function might be through the floor, my neck crepey, more white hairs appearing by the month, peach fuzz on my face, some weird wrinkly shit going on with my armpits and a vagina they may never see a penis again, but my boobs are still pert.
Can anybody relate with this triple whammy?

Wow, that’s a lot to take in all at once! I’m peri-menopausal with PMS/PMDD too, and juggling that alongside ADHD can be a real rollercoaster. I’m sorry you’ve had such a long battle with endo, but glad you’re moving into a new phase—even if it’s a bit overwhelming.

It’s a big adjustment with all these changes, so be kind to yourself. Thanks for sharing—sending you lots of good vibes and solidarity 💛

whatisforteamum · 16/06/2025 21:00

I can kind of relate.
8 yrs of peri symptoms and I had the lot.Applied for an ADHD assessment now I'm 58 found out I'm hyper active and impulsive with autistic traits after a lifetime of issues that in some ways I've worked though and other have been life affecting.
Take it easy it's a lot to deal with.

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AuADHD · 16/06/2025 21:30

Thank you both. Yes, it’s a lot to process. I’m glad you’ve got your diagnosis @whatisforteamum.
Pre-diabetes has been added to the list as of last week so I’m not happy. I rams Diabetes UK today and they said pre-diabetes isn’t a disease in itself so not to worry because I’m doing everything right already with exercise and weight; not smoking or drinking. I’ve now gone into special interest mode and gone low carb as of today. I love carbs. I mainly live off carbs so now I’m having to rethink things to see if I can get my reading back down. I’ve been told I should be able to.
@whatisforteamumhow are you feeling about your diagnosis?

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whatisforteamum · 16/06/2025 22:24

Very weird.Glad I never knew before as I just forced myself on.
Socially I hit a brick wall.Happy friendly caring just too knackered to maintain friendships .
Terrible RSD too.I think perimenopause showed me my ADHD.

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AuADHD · 17/06/2025 06:47

I agree that menopause really brought it to the surface. The mask slipped considerably. I feel I’ve deskilled since diagnosis as I try to get used to it otherwise things are the same except I have more understanding of myself. You’ll need time so be kind to yourself.

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BunnyRuddington · 18/06/2025 21:17

Wow that is a lot to deal with in a short space of time. If you’ve been inconsistent with your HRT is that something that you can try to make more of a priority? That’s the one thing Thats really helped me in the last few years.

whatisforteamum · 04/09/2025 08:10

How are you getting on now OP ?

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AuADHD · 08/09/2025 12:46

I’m in the process of applying for PIP as I’m totally burnt out. My HRT has been increased and I’ve been signed off for a couple of months. I’m going to start a new thread about the PIP.
Thank you for asking Flowers

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whatisforteamum · 09/09/2025 08:57

I'm starting the PIP journey.Menopause makes the whole situation so much harder.
Take it easy.

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