Dd - 16 social meltdown

[teenmaw]

Hi there,

just been for Boxing Day dinner that dd didn't want to go to. There were 4 more people than expected, she felt sick on arrival, hid in a bedroom the whole time spamming me to leave and had a meltdown in the car after, saying she felt disgusting because people hugged her.

She's possibly got autism and ptsd. Won't go near anyone to diagnose or help her. Dropped out of school, couldn't manage college, generally hates people. I'm at the stage I'm wondering if the risks associated with isolation are actually less than making her go to things. When I say make, I don't force her but strongly encourage. Is it worth it? Do t know what to do for the best!

If I was going to push for anything I’d push for doctor visit(s) and diagnosis rather than social stuff. This is no life for her, she’s not coping. You also need support so seeing GP and/or a mental health team is imperative at this point.

She’ll soon be an adult and you can’t hide in a bedroom texting mum your whole life. If she’ll need support as an adult you’d want to start putting things in place now.

Thanks for the reply. If she does have asd, the social element is the only thing she would need support with as otherwise unless you knew her well, it's not at all obvious and she functioned well before all the adversity in her earlier teens. There are ongoing issues that make her scared both to go out and tk be with people that she doesn't trust - which is everybody. She's at that awkward - nothing will help me stage and has had numerous assessments with CAMHS that she's not attended because she won't manage the assessment. I think some other type of therapy, maybe animal would be the best thing for her but she is for none of it and thinks a life of gaming shit in her room on her own is the right thing for her 😪 So frustrating

Shut in her room that should read lol