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8 year old behaviours

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nousernameleft · 07/10/2024 13:10

Hello, I wanted to get some advice from people who may have/had a similar experience. Sorry this is a bit long, but I have an 8 year old son who is the kindest, sweetest, loveliest boy with a big heart. Lately we have noticed he hasn’t really grown out of certain behaviours we could excuse as a younger child. He has always been high energy, a bit silly, and not good at listening. We sometimes have to tell him lots of times to stop a certain behaviour before he will listen. At times he will listen and then do it again soon after saying ‘I forgot’. He is quite physical, and can be with other kids but not in an aggressive way, he can be hyper, but at the same time at school he is described as a lovely quiet boy who gets along with everyone and is well liked. He is the youngest in his class. When we get together with his cousins he is always the one instigating running around the house even when we tell him not to, playing silly games, crawling on the floor etc, just very high energy and immature. On the flip side he has very good concentration and academically is doing well. I guess I’ve always put those behaviours down to immaturity, but starting to wonder if anything else might be at play especially as he is getting older and not outgrowing these behaviours? His school previously did a sort of senco assessment including class observation etc and the report showed no concerns. At a bit of a loss here and not sure how to deal with certain behaviours. Would be grateful for any advice. Thank you.

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nousernameleft · 07/10/2024 20:26

Bumping for the evening crowd..

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Lm952434 · 30/11/2024 23:46

nousernameleft · 07/10/2024 13:10

Hello, I wanted to get some advice from people who may have/had a similar experience. Sorry this is a bit long, but I have an 8 year old son who is the kindest, sweetest, loveliest boy with a big heart. Lately we have noticed he hasn’t really grown out of certain behaviours we could excuse as a younger child. He has always been high energy, a bit silly, and not good at listening. We sometimes have to tell him lots of times to stop a certain behaviour before he will listen. At times he will listen and then do it again soon after saying ‘I forgot’. He is quite physical, and can be with other kids but not in an aggressive way, he can be hyper, but at the same time at school he is described as a lovely quiet boy who gets along with everyone and is well liked. He is the youngest in his class. When we get together with his cousins he is always the one instigating running around the house even when we tell him not to, playing silly games, crawling on the floor etc, just very high energy and immature. On the flip side he has very good concentration and academically is doing well. I guess I’ve always put those behaviours down to immaturity, but starting to wonder if anything else might be at play especially as he is getting older and not outgrowing these behaviours? His school previously did a sort of senco assessment including class observation etc and the report showed no concerns. At a bit of a loss here and not sure how to deal with certain behaviours. Would be grateful for any advice. Thank you.

I could have written this myself about my son, although at school he is an over achiever academically, but has trouble with his behaviour still! We were referred a year ago and told to come back as he was so young (also youngest in class!) we are going back though it all again now in juniors so a better school (his previous one said he had speech impediment and nothing else, his speech was fine and they always complained about his behaviour, so it was the complete opposite of what they were saying to me, I think they mixed his up with someone else’s!!) all I can say is, it doesn’t hurt to ask a professional (something I think I’ll be doing for my daughter now after advice from lovely people on here!) I’ve got to admit though, I love my son’s innocent approach to life, even if he is wild and his obsessions are random as hell! (Georges marvellous medicine & 20th century fox!) your not alone!

nousernameleft · 01/12/2024 13:54

Thanks so much, appreciate you taking the time to reply @Lm952434 it’s so tough isn’t it. An assessment of some sort is on my radar, just makes it difficult when he’s doing so well at school. Every year I hope he will
grow out of these behaviours but 8 years on no signs 😆

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Lm952434 · 01/12/2024 18:07

nousernameleft · 01/12/2024 13:54

Thanks so much, appreciate you taking the time to reply @Lm952434 it’s so tough isn’t it. An assessment of some sort is on my radar, just makes it difficult when he’s doing so well at school. Every year I hope he will
grow out of these behaviours but 8 years on no signs 😆

Ohh it is! When they don’t fit the ‘normal’ adhd or autism quota, there seems to be more difficulty! I don’t think it’s something they grow out of by this point, I’ve just accepted my sons wild and wonderful ways! Atleast yours is ok at school, just means you get the full force of it at home bless you!

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