She's a good girl overall.
None of the usual wayward teen issues. She works hard, does well, has a good group of friends etc.
But lately we can't converse at all without it becoming a dispute where we both end up upset.
She is rude & cheeky & sarcastic. Her tone is dismissive. She doesnt shout or swear or bang doors but it's hurtful when she shows how much she dislikes me.
I feel like she is punishing me for my ASD eg I dont have theory of mind, take things literally, can be direct in my speech. I'm often misunderstood by her & everyone. She doesnt seem to take into account my disability at all.
I've made a lot of sacrifices for her (over & above expected parenting). But she never shows any appreciation. (I get this is typical of teens).
As she's generally a good girl I let most of it slide.
When I try to talk to her she just gives monosyllabic responses. Mostly I just give up. If I confront her on this it becomes an argument as she says I'm criticising her. Then she says this is why she avoids me.
It's been going round like this for a year or so. Worse recently. We were never close when she was younger as she's temperamentally the double of DP and I worked all hours to provide for her. I feel more like a step mum & don't have the bond I feel with other dc.
We don't have any interests in common. I try to have quality time with her eg film nights but then she just watches the films alone in her room instead of with me. I offer to take her shopping but she says she has no time.
I don't know what to do.
I fear she will leave home soon and I'll never hear from her again.