Will I get in legal trouble

[ZanyPombear]

I am white and I was being thoroughly degraded and discriminated against on a public chat by another autistic black person online, when the topic was autism. I spoke about some of struggles and the help I am getting mainly for my mental health and they sent numerous long paragraphs and voice messages that totalled up to about 20 minutes long, speaking about the complete lack of functioning they perceived me to have, and that they are more “normal” than me and can function. They were comparing themselves to me and all the ways they were “better” than me and all the ways I was apparently worthless and useless. They said I will never have friends and that I can’t understand anything anyone says to me. They didn’t really know me though and they were acting as though I can’t function at all ever. I found it really hurtful and degrading, and all of their judgements were made by a few messages I had sent. I called them an ape so that I could insult them on an equal level and I was removed for being racist but nothing happened to them. They got so much support whilst I only got 1 or 2 reach out to me and say they were out of order.

You lose any argument by name-calling. They got away with their put-downs by explaining why. Calling a black person an ape is guaranteed to get you banned from any forum with integrity.

Unlikely any legal ramifications, the website banned you, that's them policing it, that is your punishment.

The things they said were discriminationatory, disablist and hurtful I don’t understand why they weren’t removed if I was removed for saying something equally as hurtful they can’t change the fact that they’re black I can’t change the fact that I’m disabled that doesn’t give them the right

I didn’t say it because I meant it I said it to prove a point and because I was hurt and now I’m worried I might be reported to the police? I am wondering if they would take this seriously

Nope, police do not have a spec of time to be spending on this. So dont worry on that.
2 wrongs don't make a right, however, so someone upsetting you, doesn't mean it's OK to say something obviously racist. What point were you after proving? That you could hurt someone more than they hurt you. I doubt tit for tat on hurt emotions is atchieving anything. I'd advise using reasoned argument on why the person was wrong from your pov, that way you get more support.

If that was my chat group thingy (I run one that is public but only with an invite) I would have told the other person to stop with the (ill thought out)/offensive/rude messages and issued a warning. And if they continued ie ignored warning or acknowledged it and continued anyway, then I would block and kick them. If the messages were very aggressive and offensive and disablist they would be blocked and kicked straight away, with the reason stated.

equally, if someone posted something racist (or homophobic etc) then they would be instantly blocked and kicked, with the reason stated.

i would also have liked (bordering on expected) to have been alerted by ping or dm, to the situation before it got that heated and out of control so i could deal with it when it was at a lower level.

i wouldn’t report to police unless it was a serious threat or something serious crime wise had been stated. And even then it’s complicated as often you don’t know what country someone is in, let alone a name or anything identifying, so you may not know who to report it too. I would however not stop a member from reporting anything if they wanted to.

its unlikely anything will happen and even if it was reported it’s on the lower end of the hate crime scale (say compared to many things that happen, that the police don’t do much if anything about). So I wouldn’t worry about it. I would just say in future if something similar happens, alert a mod or admin, block the person that is offending/attacking or whatever elsing you, and try and put it out of mind.