Seeing ND traits in me after child diagnosis

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I have a child diagnosed with ADHD & due for ASD assessment soon.
I see traits in him that I recognise in me that raises questions, but never more than a recent holiday.

After a busy holiday that I'd done all the planning, driving etc for, the last day saw me having two massive panic/anxiety attacks, which left me bordering on hysterical & in floods of tears.

I'm really embarrassed by them as my children saw & a few other people trying to help me.

These really felt like autistic meltdowns - but I'd really value anyone else's view on this. Also if anyone has any ideas on how I can reduce the likelihood of them happening again.

Me too.
Infact during dc3 assessment for asd dc said well if you think I'm autistic because of x,y and z you'd better test mum because she does the same. I went on to get a diagnosis.
I think simplifying my life to reduce stress. Realising that certain things will make life harder or when we fo on holiday have alternate days as very relaxed/doing minimal helps us all (3 of us diagnosed, one on pathway). I think just having someone say you have asd helped me treat myself much more kindly.

My DD has been referred for autism assessment after her falling apart this year. The more I've researched girls/ women and autism the more I see it in my other girls and myself. I keep having realisations that my traits have always been there but I have been so highly masking I haven't realised until now. I thought I was just shy, introverted, anxious, quirky etc... I am exhausted and feel burnt out from it all, I need to go to the GP for a referral.

Apparently it's very common for the mum to be diagnosed after the kids as autism is easy to miss in low needs high masking women/ girls.

Thanks both - I feel completely burnt out & do wonder if I've been masking for a very long time.
I distinctly remember specific points where I could cope with/understand interactions & had a mini breakdown and people just distanced themselves from me after that, so maybe I've learnt to mask too well?

Don't do such a busy holiday...

Says I who is on holiday with two autistic teens and is very busy...

When your son is diagnosed...

Look at his dad, look at your daughter and finally look in the mirror...

Ds was diagnosed first. The DD started showing signs. So I looked up autism in girls and went "oh!"💡