Anyone else TTC with ADHD?

[CharLdn]

I feel like TTC with ADHD has its whole unique set of challenges.

Hyperfocussing intensely on TTC

Having zero patience on the time everything takes

Endless impulse purchases for TTC

Boredom with the whole process….

is anyone else in the same boat?

Not currently but been there in the past.

I now know far more than anyone needs to know about ovulation, conception and genetic mutations

I recommend Fertility Friend - they have a good free course in their app, and their chart is much more accurate than the other apps. Basal body temperature taken using a cheap digital thermometer is a good thing to track IME. I never bothered with OPKs.

I also really like a book called Bump by Kate Evans - it has a lot of useful preconception info in it as well.

I found it helpful to get a handle on how long it generally takes to conceive (especially so since my DH has a translocated chromosome which causes more of our pregnancies to fail), so I wasn't worried when it didn't happen the first cycle.

Lastly - sorry to ask because I know this is intrusive, but honestly, how healthy is your relationship? Us ADHDers can be prone to being victims of emotionally unhealthy/unbalanced/even abusive relationships, and while you can often seem to bumble along fine with this until children come along, it is a whole world of stress and difficulty if you have children with someone and your relationship isn't rock solid to begin with. My eldest son's father definitely fit this pattern unfortunately. It meant that I ended up becoming a single parent, and with (undiagnosed at the time) ADHD that was an extremely difficult and stressful period of my life.

Heya thanks for the reply ❤️ @BertieBotts

Totally get - getting a grip on the timeline (this has been a struggle) we’ve been trying for 7 months now I’m 35 so it’s taking longer than I’d like.

I’ve had lots of tests - looks ok for me apart from I have slightly irregular periods (No PCOS as I’ve just had my ovaries scanned) so currently trying to pinpoint ovulation days and also getting DH tested.

My relationship is pretty solid we’ve been together 8 years - married 1 and I’m in therapy and am an ADHD coach so am pretty self aware. We’ve also had couples therapy over the pandemic so are at least aware and talk about our potential issues.

We’ve had some issues over communication - different style sometimes and I’m not great at housework but he’s a really good guy.

He was raised in a family where his dad was the main one doing housework and has a very solid upbringing. He is very reliable and caring - the main issues we have is I’m all over the place and he gets forgotten about.

Long story short he has very good father potential (in my biased view).

Omg yes. So I’ll start with I’m not diagnosed with ADHD but all the signs are they for me. However, I’m in the ‘bored’ part and have always been, as I’m soooo impatient I get bored of it but at the same time impatient. On top of that I find it so overwhelming all the advise the tips, going for bloods because we’ve been trying a long time with no luck and looking into why that might be. I find it so overwhelming that I almost just ignore and continue to try as I do every month with the help of ovulation apps ect! So I’m not to hyper focused like yourself a bit the opposite. I do find that everyone around me is falling pregnant I’m just the last one stringing behind which some days I find myself lonely and emotional about.

@Beautyintheeyes finally someone else!!!

I’m now 16 months in and still going. It is a lot of admin tbh.

I’ve had everything tested under the sun and it looks like PCOS with a side of insulin resistance.

I did a hertility test initially which covered loads of hormones so that was a good all in one.

if you are struggling to get stuff booked definitely ask your partner to help!

@CharLdn I have seen it advertised but didn’t know anyone to have used it, was it worth it? Did it show anything for you to act on? I’ve always expressed I think I have a hormone imbalance I just feel it, but doctors have done bloods twice now and are adamant I’m not so it’s never gone any further, I’ve had scans and they also don’t think it’s PCOS and I’m due to start the process of IVF conversations with the fertility clinic which I’m not overly excited about as I’m a massive wimp with anything medical! Have you tried ovulation sticks? I use the natural cycles with my Apple Watch and track my temperature which is good as the flow app was not the same time in predications!

Interesting it didn’t show anything the docs haven’t told me.

Have you been tested for insulin resistance?

All my bloods have come back as technically normal - but my FSH levels were low (ish) and testosterone levels high plus if you google the signs of insulin resistance I had a lot of them.

I’m now trying to be prescribed metformin.

If you are on the PCOS scale it might be worth talking to them about insulin resistance or trying out Myo inositol supplements.

I’m also awaiting my referral to the fertility clinic - hoping to try clomid or letrozole then if I need to iui before ivf.

@Beautyintheeyes I used the Mira app for tracking ovulation - it was expensive but gives you a lot of data.

basically we’ve been having sex at the right time but I don’t think I’ve been properly ovulating because of possible insulin resistance/pcos

TTC since a miscarriage in 2021. Can't believe it's been that long actually. Wish we'd tried harder in 2020 but didn't seem sensible at the time.

@KhakiHare - hindsight is so annoying I waited a year post marriage to start trying and now I’m also post miscarriage- it’s a long slog!