My partner has recently been diagnosed with ADHD. He has more of ADD rather than ADHD. He struggles to focus on tasks and has all the typical symptoms. We have 2 children and we've been together since 2017.
I have always found him untidy and unorganised but I was always told by people around me including my MIL that "most men are like that".
Now that I've got children, I am really struggling and I feel burnt out. I am forever cleaning after him and he is barely involved in anything at home other than spending time with kids (playing etc). I take over most almost all the household chores, clean after him and two kids and I also work part time to contribute towards the household expenses.
I feel overly tired and emotional most of the time. He struggles to do bare minimum i.e. my dd was gifted a kitchen set recently that needed assembling and he has been promising her for weeks but instead he's on his phone or just sat there wasting time.
I think what concerns me the most is his meltdowns. Living with him is like walking on the eggshell and his explosive reaction to something so minor affects me alot. I know this is another sign of ADHD. But I am struggling, I don't like my children seeing that either
I really don't know what I can do to help him. I feel so exhausted all the time and I have no time for myself because I'm having to take over literally EVERYTHING!
I feel very upset most of the time.
I'm not sure if he's struggling to see it or just refuses to acknowledge how burnt out I am. Everytime mention to him, I feel like he's not even interested and has no care whatsoever.
He is on a waitinglist to see someone at the hospital regarding ADHD.
Is anyone else going through what I am, and any suggestions please as I am really tired of it all but I have 2 dependents and they have a very good relationship with my partner