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Autistic DH /father

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unlikelychump · 28/06/2024 21:14

I am starting to think my DH is autistic. He is a very poor communicator and it is impacting heavily on our relationship and his relationship with our children. I've lost patience with him and I think now I was helping him to mask, propping him up a lot. He doesn't see any issues with his relationships and think I'm difficult and argumentative.

I was wondering how autistic symptoms manifest in parenting if anyone can share.

Some of our problems are around executive function - bring late, forgetting school stuff etc, social communication - refusing to tell children stuff,not taking into account their wishes (cooking meals they dislike, refusing to discuss) , arguing with the children (almost like a peer), failing to interact appropriately with babysitter - ie not thanking, paying promptly so she quits. General disorganisation, etc.

2 of the children are likely autistic and it also rules heavily in his family, but he has always been adamant he doesn't have it,so I haven't really considered it properly.

Id love some insight, or feedback that I am barking up the wrong tree.

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maximalistmaximus · 08/05/2025 09:40

Hi sorry no one’s responded

Thats not screaming asd at me really. Maybe he’s just a poor communicator & not a very nice person?

the meal planning could be a lack of theory if mind which is a asd trait though.

unlikelychump · 09/05/2025 23:27

Thanks so much for replying. How depressing that I wrote this a year ago and we are no further forward. My children are now both diagnosed though so progress for them.

Thank you for giving me the language "theory of mind" he 💯 has that but I have been describing it for years as I didn't know the word for it!!

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