My husband has always been all or nothing ,hot or cold ,up or down.
His moods cause me great anxiety,to the point sometimes I can't eat around him ,or go to the toilet if he's in the house .
He can walk out of a room in one mood ,and walk back in ,in another.
He can turn his mood on and off depending on who is there ,so he can be in a mood with me and not speaking to me ,a DC comes in ,and he's normal again ,and normal to me ,then dc goes out ,and he's back to being in a mood with me.
And he's just had 4 days of work and I spent that whole time a ball of anxiety.
I've tried talking to him and he says he's just tired,or I'm imagining it
He's critical of the house and no matter how much housework I did ,it wouldn't be enough.
I have bad anxiety with lots of people,even my adult children
So I can't be sure if I'm imagining his moods ,and he is just tired like he says .