Hey all. Im sorry if it’s weird to put this in this thread, i just need somebody to rant to.
I have been babysitting the son, of a lady that I have not even known long. I first met her in her local shop, when her small child was in the shop with her, because she did not have any childcare.
It took me back to when I was Round about 20, and had two children who had to come to work with me. I took pity on her and offered to bring him home to look after him and she did not even hesitate to say no. well, she was a mutual friend, so I think that’s why she trusted me, but now the babysitting has just gotten out of hand to be honest.
I am a single mum with three younger kids. I’m also autistic and have ADHD. I’m also working two jobs, doing a degree in law, and another course.
Being a single mum means I have to get up and do everything by myself, which I do not moan about, because I chose to have these children, but my friend keeps asking me to babysit on school nights, because she is tired, has a cold, or needs to bake a cheesecake.
You do not need a babysitter to bake a cheesecake! put the child down, give him some toys, put the TV on or give him some arts and craft; but she refuses to set boundaries and expects other people, to drop what they are doing to babysit. I wouldn’t dream of asking someone to babysit so i can make make a cheesecake.
Or she would ask me to babysit on school days, because she wants to sleep. I have three younger kids! I want to sleep! I am tired, I am knackered. We are parents— we are all tired .
Funny thing is, she will not ask me in front of this mutual friend because the mutual friend has even told her she’s taking advantage.
Mutual friend refuses to have him, unless it’s on a Thursday, so she can do her bakery preps for work the next day.
I have been having him from Friday to Monday, because even though she finishes on Sunday, she said she’s too tired to get him on the Sunday, so means I have to get all the kids ready and drop him off on Monday morning; and having ADHD , sometimes I late dropping my daughter off to nursery, because I’ve got an extra child and it’s just not fair on her, but she has no boundaries and I know this is stupid, but I don’t know how to break it to her, that I just no longer want to do this.
It has become an inconvenience to me and my family. sometimes when I have taken him on school days, it means we’ve had to take cabs, because she has dumped him on me late and because I’ve got him, it is double cab fair. I can’t drive at the minute, because of medical reasons. I’m really having a hard time with this.
And, I came across her Facebook page, and she has told everybody she feels unwell, but still wants me to take him. I have nobody to take my kids, ever, but I know it is my problem. Plenty of us have minor colds and still have to be parents.
And one thing that gets me, she is always bringing him to my house sick. Sorry to rant here .