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Can’t function, Can’t work, Can’t cope all due to ASD

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ThisExistence · 13/06/2024 17:53

I’m struggling to find any good points in any days now and I’m really fed up. It just feels relentless. Plus the judging from others all the time.

I want to be able to do something worthwhile or even just something boring that most people take for granted like just going to a physical shop without experiencing shutdown or needing 3 days to recover .

I have selective mutism as well which makes things so hard and I’m so irritated by myself.

I should be kinder to myself but I’m frustrated at my life

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Willowcat77 · 13/06/2024 20:40

I can't work either now due to severe autistic burnout, actually caused by my job. I don't know if I will ever work again. Can you find solace in your interests ? I can't leave my premises but love my gardening and cats and this is saving me. Are you able to access autism-aware mental health services? I am on a waiting list and hoping they will help me but have no idea what to expect.

hendoop · 25/06/2024 19:39

Has it gradually got worse? What are your triggers? Dont underestimate the effect of moon and menstrual cycle

MaidOfAle · 25/06/2024 23:50

hendoop · 25/06/2024 19:39

Has it gradually got worse? What are your triggers? Dont underestimate the effect of moon and menstrual cycle

Menstrual cycle, yes, but the moon? C'mon, we're not werewolves.

hendoop · 26/06/2024 19:19

Honestly, research it. The moon is massive on mood and ND.

My friends who work in specialist ND schools and other establishments say the building literally vibrates during a full moon and all emergency services (where I work) are ao busy during the moon.

MaidOfAle · 02/07/2024 00:27

hendoop · 26/06/2024 19:19

Honestly, research it. The moon is massive on mood and ND.

My friends who work in specialist ND schools and other establishments say the building literally vibrates during a full moon and all emergency services (where I work) are ao busy during the moon.

I could believe that if we didn't live in a world full of artificial light sources where we all stare at backlit screens. Artificial light will have a far greater effect. I couldn't even tell you what the current lunar phase is, despite paying attention to both solstices and equinoces.

ThisExistence · 02/07/2024 08:10

I suppose if the moon can influence the oceans then why wouldn’t it have an effect on us as well. I hadn’t really thought about it before

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MaidOfAle · 02/07/2024 21:35

We aren't enormous bodies of water covering 70% of the planet. Tidal pull is because of gravity and the tides happen multiple times per day. The articles I've seen asserting that the moon affects autism blame lunar phase, which has nothing to do with tides and everything to do with overnight light levels.

hendoop · 03/07/2024 21:29

I do not know how or why but all emergency services / mental health and places with servere ND clients are all massively affected by a full moon.

I am an emergency service worker and the full moon is so busy,

MaidOfAle · 04/07/2024 00:38

I hit way more red lights than normal on the way out this evening... oh no, wait, I only think I did because I was already late and so noticed every time I was held up at a red.

Confirmation bias is a powerful thing.

123dogdog · 05/07/2024 16:47

I’ve heard of the moon thing, but mainly in sitcoms, but I don’t believe it has a noticeable effect tbh. I rarely notice the moon in the sky, largely because where I live it’s mainly cloudy 😂 as for the idea people sleep worse from the light of the moon, I can only really see an issue in winter, because summer it’s only actually dark like 12am-2am, the rest of the time it’s varying levels of light, so there should be a summer/winter thing too.

as for the op topic on none moon related things. I get this a lot, sometimes all the time, sometimes everyday, and then less variations.

i feel like I’m doing nothing worthwhile, like everyone has jobs, or kids, or lives alone, or a partner, or insert any other thing you want, and I’m just flumping around doing very little, or getting upset or annoyed over anything or nothing.

it also doesn’t help looking at other autistics, ie the ones who have jobs, whether full time or part time or whatever, have kids, or a partner, can live independently, or have a specialty. Or even just a useful special interest that they can use to do something. My special interests are all absolutely fucking random, often expensive, rarely useful and there is rarely any benefit to me or others.

I have absolutely no consistency in the vast majority of things. The only consistent thing I have is my interest in dogs (mainly in a having a dog, or wanting a dog 😬😂). Luckily my mind gets very overwhelmed at the thought of having many dogs (even though it wants lots of dogs) and parents are sensible and would never allow it. Currently we have 1 dog, but picking up another Monday (who will (hopefully) be an assistance dog, which I am really hoping will help me, I really think it will).

and even when I have very frustrated I wanna do something worthwhile thoughts, there is never anything I want to do, there’s nothing I want to do really, bar petting my dog/s, sometimes talking to people I like and eating some crisps. I’ve never had any particular goals, I’ve had many fantasy goals but none have ever been realised really, they chop and change, nothing really lasts very long. And one of the big things is my massive lack of work ethic 😂 (ADHD), I have no interest or ability to do things I don’t see the point in (unless I want to get something or impress someone in a way that I hope makes them see I’m worthwhile 😂), and even things I want to do, I often don’t see the point, or can never quite get round to it, or I start it have all these grand ideas and then reality kicks in and I’m like fuck it canna be assed 😂 also add in a lot of pressure (whether real or imagined) and I just can’t cope with it.

im very much a, what the fuck is the point of that, person. Which I know is not great tbh. I’m not sure helps my mood a lot of the time though.

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