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Help… I can’t take the arguments anymore

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ACEwards · 21/05/2024 16:01

My 13 yr old son has ADHD and ASD. He and my husband argue ALL the time and I’m just so sick of it.

If I’m honest, I don’t agree with the way my husband speaks to our kids, but when I raise it he says I’m undermining his parenting. He’s very firm, and tends to lose his temper, but this doesn’t work with our neurodivergent son and they end up just always fighting for the last word - it will literally go on and on and on with no resolution 🤦‍♀️

Im stuck in the middle all the time. My husband wants me to be firmer (I don’t agree), and my children come to me for everything as they don’t want to argue with their dad. I keep trying to explain to him that arguing with our son just doesn’t work due to the way he processes things. To be honest, he was diagnosed late in life so I still have no idea how to handle him sometimes.

Anyone else in the position where one parent just doesn’t get on with or know how to handle their child with ASD or ADHD? I don’t feel I have anyone to speak to, least of all my husband as he thinks I’m criticising him

I feel very alone and caught in the middle 😥

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BlackeyedSusan · 22/05/2024 10:26

Left the bastard. Still having to go to his house to supervise ds and him because they can't let things go

ACEwards · 22/05/2024 15:04

I'm lucky that he's not a bastard (most of the time LOL), so won't be leaving him. We just have very different parenting styles which have only become an issue now our kids are older and my son has his diagnosis. Glad I'm not the only one who can't take the arguments 🫣 x

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