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Can't keep a lid on my weirdness any more

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Electricblankettime · 06/04/2024 00:21

When I was a child autism and adhd wasnt really a thing and it especially wasn't a thing for females. I was just classed as weird as a child.

When I became an adult I graduated to being eccentric.

Now I'm menopausal I can't force the weirdness down any more. I hand flap in public and can't stop myself, I forget to say things acceptably, I can't think how to respond to questions on the spot in public and just kind of close down like I've ran out of batteries.

I have another 15 years to work before I can retire and I think a diagnosis would really help me. Doctor things no point as I'm an old bag and can't explain why I need a diagnosis (cos I can't answer questions on the spot but it is to help me at work be allowed breaks to reset myself)

Also as I have achieved so much, have friends, am quite extrovert I don't meet all the things.

Has anyone found they became more autistic and couldn't keep things in with menapause and how do I ask for a referral. Gp did give me the adhd assessment questionnaire but not one for autism.

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CadyEastman · 06/04/2024 18:12

I know what you mean. I talk to myself, not a general chat but blurt out a certain phrase when I'm tired or stressed. Have always managed to not do it in front of other people but I'm really bloody struggling with it now.

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VitoCorleoneOfMNMafia · 07/04/2024 00:34

Can you self-refer to the diagnostic service for your area?

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Electricblankettime · 07/04/2024 22:30

There is no option to self refer on my area. It's a good idea though thank you

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CadyEastman · 20/04/2024 06:34

I've finally been to the GP @Electricblankettime and asked for assessments for ADHD & ASD. I found it really tough asking, OH suggested I asked lady August and it's taken me this long but the GP was lovely, asked me a few questions, got me to fill in a quick form and did the referrals there and then. Now the very long wait.

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Jimmyneutronsforehead · 21/04/2024 13:44

@CadyEastman I think it depends on your area.

In my area you can only be referred for one at a time, I just went for autism first, I was referred in November and diagnosed in March through the SWYT NHS services.

However my brother has been referred for ADHD and is still awaiting his first assessment and it's almost been a year.

I hope you're not waiting too long for answers.