Something that really upset me on an Autism reddit page

[hannabanana11]

I was reading some posts today on a reddit group for women with autism and felt really upset by some of the things that were said there. There was a post about how not having friends was a huge red flag and would put them off dating someone. To be honest, I would have expected a lot more understanding on an autism support forum. I am someone who has always struggled in friendships through no fault of my own really, I've done all the joining groups and putting myself out there, im kind, friendly and take an interest in people, but the majority of my friendships have not lasted or I've been treated terribly. That's why it's so hurtful to read that people without friends are toxic or someone to be avoided etc.

Anyone have any thoughts on this? I know I should rise above stuff like this but it's made me feel crap about myself

There's a lot of ignorant people out there. It seems like that person is coming from a place of trying not to get hurt in a relationship again. It's like they are trying to apply some sweeping blanket rules that will eliminate a chunk of people to consider dating. She's probs not ready to date.

Whenever I hear people talk about red flags I think well why can't you just trust your gut rather than have to have these very specific things that you look out for. And it's probably because they have been hurt and don't trust themselves so have to really try to identify negatives and use them to get out of the relationship.

...anyway it says more about them then it does about you.

I've found a lot of subs have been infiltrated... are those comments from regulars to the sub? x

@SquishyElbows yes you're so right. I feel the same way about red flags, I was just so incredibly surprised that these people who claimed to have autism were so judgemental.

@littlemissdelightful the comments seem to be from regular posters all whom have autism themselves, kinda surprised me really just how nasty a lot of the comments were

Was it the sub with asper in the name? If so, I find the people on that sub quite immature and difficult to relate to.

Either way thought it’s important to remember that everyone is different, even people with autism. On those subs there’s also a lot of young people and also trans women, some of whom I’ve found to be aggressive in their posting style about other women’s experience of autism.