I was diagnosed at 40 with adhd , after had daughter and she was diagnosed at 2 with autism non verbal and significant learning disability. And realised I definitely had adhd.
Took few years anyways diagnosed last September and started medication in December. Noticed since taking medication that autistic traits I know I had have massively come out and have seen this can be case. So last week at my adhd medication catch up I asked for autism assessment and give in questionnaires (they gave me them by mistake when needing to fill in adhd) ,
so just filled them in, spoke about traits causing a problem and handed the Psychiatrist the forms. She looked at them listened and then said I should look for support online autistic adults forums so I'm assuming that means I will get autism diagnosis, anyways since that appointment last Wednesday I've just been feeling really sad. I spoke to my mum at weekend and she basically told me she trained me as child in any autistic trait ie eye contact, social issues (Didn't know it was autism at time, only since daughters diagnosis has she discovered she is also autistic and adhd but not pursuing diagnosis. ) so seems like trained me to mask (but did it to help me , as she didn't know anything about masking or Neurodiversity) and I just feel alone, I have lot of Neurodiverse friends due to parents of Neurodiverse children I've meet through children (younger daughter also going for asd and adhd assessment (she is 5) but don't know anyone with both. Im also realising I have pda profile and struggling with that and struggling with my youngest daughter also showing a pda profile and basically since having children it's like a bomb gone off! And I'm trying to deal with the aftermath (and just to note my husband is also going for a adhd assessment, he also is I think autistic but not pursuing that diagnosis) I don't even know what I'm asking.