I'm adhd and autistic. I'm in a small friendship group with three other women. We all go to the same church. Two of the women are fine - warm and friendly and genuine. They're the same age as me and we're middle aged. The other woman is in her 20s, married and new to the area. She's the problem.
For several months now she's been getting sly digs in at me - usually regarding my weight, mental health and lack of formal education. She is confident and quite boasty. She has a high opinion of herself. She doesn't have digs at the other two women. Her mean girl vibe is very strong. I actually dread spending time with her. She's definitely not someone I'd choose to be friends with, but kind of went along with it to keep the peace. She expects trips out (doesn't drive) and never pays for meals or coffee. She's disrespecting my boundaries and I feel as though I'm being bullied. I'm a good judge of character as I've been abused in the past. This one has more red flags than a bunting parade.
I don't know what to do. The church is small and I'll keep running in to her. I've blocked her on messaging, but I'm still in the group chat. What do I do? What do I say to the others? I can't go back to church or any of the social gatherings. This is the first time in my life I've had friends and now this. I can't tell her face to face. I'm afraid of women as I was bullied by girls so badly at school. My mother also abused me. I've been through a lot in my life. I don't feel I deserve this. I'm trying to address my weight issue, but it's hard because I can't afford the adhd medications.