In laws finding out I am diagnosed with autism

[Pugdays]

My children have diagnosis of autism,and that's what made me wonder if I have ,
So after a couple of years wait I was diagnosed with autism last year on NHS.
Children's grandparents,were not fantastic when they found out that grandchildren had diagnosis of autism...,they blamed any behaviour on my parenting ( yeah my parenting not their son's who did no actual parenting ,)and didn't believe children had autism,said children would be different if they lived with them
So I've told a couple of friends,who were not great either,and basically said diagnosis for me was wrong and it's childhood trauma not autism..
So I'm so worried about in-laws finding out I have a diagnosis,they are instantly going to say I've given it the children,or say ,don't be so rediculous of course you haven't
And I can't plan how I'm going to handle this
So I was looking for ideas on what other people had said ,and how they dealt with telling family members who didn't believe them ,or blamed them for giving it the children..thanks

I'd go no contact with these people who add nothing good to your life.

Just don’t tell people. The only people that really understand are those that have done their own research. That’s not many. Most people will have their own biases and opinions and you will hear them.

The diagnosis is for you to understand yourself and gain confidence that your brain works the way it works and that’s that! You don’t need to explain your existence to anyone. People will be people.

Who knows more about how your brain works - You and a trained, qualified medical professional or your in-laws?

Try and find it ridiculous and funny that they think they know so much rather than letting it get to you. Let it roll off your back and say things like “Oh I didn’t realised you had a medical qualification, Linda! I should have saved my time and asked you!” Etc.

Oh OP that's definitely no contact for those arseholes. What awful things to say. Do what's best for you and your children. They don't deserve to be in your or your children's lives.